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DanieMarie
13 May 2016, 05:11
Is anyone else totally sick of this? I'm seeing professional photo sessions for EVERYTHING these days. Engagements, pregnancy, "gender reveals" (where you reveal the gender of your unborn child, sometimes even accompanied by a party...seriously), anniversaries....ever little life event.

Does anyone else remember the only times you hired a photographer to take glossy photos of your life was your wedding, and you did family portraits once a year at Sears? I know those photos were terrible and a lot of on-field photographers do much better work, but there has to be a happy medium. It feels like social media is turning into a magazine where everyone spends stupid and pointless amounts of money showing off. I don't know about you all, but I'd rather spend my money on traveling or actual stuff I can use.

Hawkfeathers
13 May 2016, 05:24
In the late 70's, I had a nice SLR camera, and really enjoyed photography for many years. I managed a studio that did weddings & graduation portraits, and it was like you said - special events. It's insane now. And - most of these are sold as digital products, so will intermingle with the thread about the past/future and how media changes. People photo & video all these things on their phones, too, and eventually will not be able to access them all. It's not like having an actual physical photo album or box of negatives.

I don't remember any such thing as "promposals" and half the stuff that money is spent on today. It's kind of silly, IMO, and like everything else, takes away from family time. Grandpa taking forever to set up his camera and take our pictures on holidays was fun!

DanieMarie
13 May 2016, 07:38
Oh god, promposals. How is that even a thing? I was listening to a podcast (I think it was This American Life) and someone was talking about prom dates and saying how it's the most important decision next to marriage that you can make. Is it, though? Because you're not committed to that person legally and don't have to associate with them again after that night if you don't want to. We didn't even do prom dates at my school. We walked down the floor at graduation with the opposite sex, but we had to decide who to walk down with so early that most people just chose their platonic friends.

I just don't see how everything has to be an event, let alone so polished. I like special occasions and holidays as much as the next person, but I don't hire photographers and create coordinated decorations for them. I think it kind of detracts from life events are actually important as well. Like, if you have a kindergarten graduation, elementary school graduation, middle school graduation and numerous grade graduations in between, is your high school graduation really all that big (or do you have to make it even bigger to compare?) I'm happy for acquaintances that have babies, but I find myself kind of caring less when the baby comes when they've documented every single step in the pregnancy in polished detail.

I do know a lot of professional photographers and I don't begrudge them the work that they get, but it just seems like there's a whole lot of overkill.

Jembru
13 May 2016, 08:26
I think it's simple. We have far too much time and disposable income these days, and live in a world that is constantly trying to sell us meaningless tat. A fool and his money and all that...

anunitu
13 May 2016, 08:37
Wait oh wait,I have not yet shown you my bottle cap collection
https://c1.staticflickr.com/9/8393/8684833481_423d63c10a_b.jpg

Isn't it just oh so cool...

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Trust me when I say,I do NOT collect bottle Caps...

kalynraye
13 May 2016, 09:03
I'm gonna thank the selfie for it. Yes I agree photo sessions for everything are obnoxious and annoying. I've seen all the above also my brother and sister in law had a gender reveal party for my niece except most of the time those are actual baby showers not there own separate party. I'm also not all about the each month pregnancy photo they have going on either. I understand women are suppose to be beautiful during this time but all I feel is fat, tired and uncomfortable. There is nothing beautiful about me!

Hawkfeathers
13 May 2016, 09:22
This is one of the pics my parents took, senior year - 1975. I'm still friends with this guy!
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kalynraye
13 May 2016, 09:28
Look at how lovely you are!! What a great photo. I love pictures I really do. Its nice to be able to see things from the past that my memory doesn't always remember but I don't need a picture of EVERYTHING.

Hawkfeathers
13 May 2016, 09:53
Thanks! I remember being thin and blonde.... LOL I really don't remember being asked to the prom. If you had a bf, you knew you were going with him, pretty simple! Oh and what they spend on dresses, etc., is crazy too! Of course everything costs more than back then (That gown was about $35.00) but some spend thousands, and it seems silly to go into debt for a dance.

DanieMarie
13 May 2016, 10:52
This is one of the pics my parents took, senior year - 1975. I'm still friends with this guy!
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Adorable! I love your dress!

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Look at how lovely you are!! What a great photo. I love pictures I really do. Its nice to be able to see things from the past that my memory doesn't always remember but I don't need a picture of EVERYTHING.

Like you, I also love photos. When I was younger, I took a lot of webcam shots (the early 2000 version of the selfie) and posted them to MySpace and stuff, and I still love snapping pics of my vacations and stuff I made (though, I'm not in very many of them these days). I just don't see why so many people feel the need to have professional pictures for everything or look so polished all the time. I love candid photos!

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Thanks! I remember being thin and blonde.... LOL I really don't remember being asked to the prom. If you had a bf, you knew you were going with him, pretty simple! Oh and what they spend on dresses, etc., is crazy too! Of course everything costs more than back then (That gown was about $35.00) but some spend thousands, and it seems silly to go into debt for a dance.

I used to work at a bridal/prom shop and it's pretty crazy. Even in the early 2000s, lots of girls were spending several hundred on dresses. When I graduated, a lot of girls spent a lot of their job money on their gowns. I made mine with real silk fabric for under $100 Canadian (which was about $75 US at the time).

Hawkfeathers
13 May 2016, 12:59
I wonder if they have photographers document their dress shopping experience! LOL

Jembru
13 May 2016, 17:28
I personally hate the whole selfie thing too. I guess I'm biased though because I'm so hideous in photos. The thought that some people are proud of how they look enough to want to show off pictures of themselves pouting at their phones is an alien concept to me. Whenever I go anywhere nice I'd like to share with fb friends or whatever, I look so bad in every single photo that I just don't bother posting at all. My fb page is like a ghost town*. Little besides the occasional cat image someone decided to tag me in or post to my wall.. which is even worse when I think of it. People see cats and the first thing that pops into their head is me.

Omgs, I've become THAT woman.

*Not including the photos JP recently uploaded of the alcoholic storm trooper that moved in with us and does all our housework in exchange for beer..

kalynraye
13 May 2016, 18:59
You are not horrible in photos. Don't be so hard on yourself, aren't we working on positive body image?? Well that goes over to photos to my lovely lady! And I can say lovely lady cause I have seen photos of you that you have posted. I probably take way to many pictures of food. I don't post them all but I love food, oh and my dogs.

Jembru
14 May 2016, 15:16
^^
Yeah but it's not quite as straightforward as suddenly thinking I'm picture perfect! I've been debating blogging about my journey so far actually..

In short though, the reason the positive body image thing is finally working is because I discovered there's a difference between accepting yourself as you are, and being able to see yourself as more attractive than you are. I used to think that unless I could look in the mirror and see someone with a pretty face and normal figure looking back at me, then I've failed. But I don't have a 'normal' figure, and I have unfortunate bone structure and skin. I can't change that, so instead I've learnt that it's okay to be the shape I am. Most importantly is that I've learnt that it's also okay for people to be thinner or prettier than I am, and that their existance doesn't affect me in any way.

Sadly my face really does look bad in photos. I have dark circles under my eyes that are genetic rather than something I can fix with plenty sleep. They're very ageing and make me look kinda sickly. Now and then I get a lucky shot where the light was just right, but usually I look worse in photos than I do in real life (I don't mind moving videos of myself for example).

It's okay. I'm honestly okay with being a bit hard on the eyes, and ive gained half a stone and I'm not freaking out about it, or planning my next crash diet. That said, I'm not so okay with it that I want to post dozens of pouting pics of my imperfect face and body to fb, so my friends can gasp and say 'hasn't she let herself go' and feel better about themselves for at least not looking as bad as I do.. you know?

Sorry for the slight derail here. Although it's kinda tied in with the subject of general contempt for the current obsession with photos! I just couldn't imagine how it would feel to WANT to show off my latest selfie.

thalassa
14 May 2016, 17:44
Professional photo sessions for being knocked up weird me out, but I love selfies.

Not gratuitous selfies, but the occasional photobombing my own pic.

Medusa
14 May 2016, 21:34
What about professional photo sessions for the parents with miscarriages? I know I'm bringing up sad things. But I've seen them.

thalassa
15 May 2016, 06:55
What about professional photo sessions for the parents with miscarriages? I know I'm bringing up sad things. But I've seen them.

That's weird too.

Then again, death portraits were a huge thing in the Victorian era.

It's not like this is new.

anunitu
15 May 2016, 08:32
The death photo thing came up at My exe's side when one of the relatives did a picture of the dead in the coffin. You must understand her side of the family was OLD school German mainly in Lodi California. We are talking German spoken at home and with family. So old customs still happen.

faye_cat
15 May 2016, 09:25
Professional photographer, so I have to weigh in on this.

Yes, I don't understand promposals and other "gimmicky" things, but hey more money for me, right? =P (I kid...kinda).

The parents with miscarriages...the biggest group of that is Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep, and it's goal is to give parents a tangible gift of knowing they had a baby, however short lived it was. And not just blurry snapshots, but a true piece of art that will stay with them and help keep the memory alive, both for grieving and healing. I know plenty of people who have had miscarriages or short lived babies who can't remember them, because they were exhausted/emotional during that period of time.

Anyways, for me personally, I think that a part of people wanting "all the pics!" is a reflection of the fact that their parents didn't have any pictures of the every day stuff. I know my mom talks about how she doesn't even have one snapshot of herself pregnant, not even on halloween, because no one ever took them, and it makes her so sad. And people don't have many from birthday parties because they are running around being hosts, so they don't have time to take them (Especially nowadays with the bratty kids not giving them a minute to relax).

I think it's also the fact that technology now has gotten to the point where it *is* accessible. People can usually afford at least one camera, and a good memory card, and storage for the digital files. I mean, people used to stand for hours over a few days to get their portrait made, is 10 selfies a day as silly? =P (Yes, when all ten are posted on facebook at the same time lol).

As Jembru mentioned, self positivity is a huge part of it to. Lifestyle photography, as it's known as, really does help someone feel good. It can really show what you actually look like, and make you feel great.

Urgh, I am not articulate at all...

tl;dr: I agree that the abundance of sharing the pictures can be annoying and a reflection of a narcissistic tendency, but I think the photography itself is a good thing.

thalassa
15 May 2016, 09:53
The parents with miscarriages...the biggest group of that is Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep, and it's goal is to give parents a tangible gift of knowing they had a baby, however short lived it was. And not just blurry snapshots, but a true piece of art that will stay with them and help keep the memory alive, both for grieving and healing. I know plenty of people who have had miscarriages or short lived babies who can't remember them, because they were exhausted/emotional during that period of time.


I had a stillbirth at 26 weeks. While I can intellectually understand this....personally, I don't want or need that memory. I don't want to think of my Aurora as what she looked like when she was born. But different people grieve differently. To me its wierd.

Kiesha'ra
15 May 2016, 16:11
I agree with marking special occasions with photos but not necessarily a professional for every little event. I admit I take a lot of selfies (not like every single day like some people but idk a few a month) mainly because I'm half the country away at school and my family wants to see how my life is.

DanieMarie
16 May 2016, 04:38
tl;dr: I agree that the abundance of sharing the pictures can be annoying and a reflection of a narcissistic tendency, but I think the photography itself is a good thing.

I think that might be the root of what annoys me about this. I probably wouldn't care much if people did photo sessions for everything and framed them on their walls, put them in albums, or stored them in digital photo frames, but every time I go online, it looks like everyone is trying to be in a magazine. Likewise, it wouldn't bother me if people had candids of that stuff online. It just feels a little show-offy.

Plus, maybe separate from the photo thing but related is the celebrations for every little thing.

Edit: Like Thal and a few others here, I'm also not a selfie hater by default. It does bother me when people post them constantly, but they don't bug me overall. I used to travel alone and still know a lot of people who do, so I understand the practicality of it in a lot of cases (not -just- travelling).

thalassa
17 May 2016, 08:09
I do post a lot of pictures...but part of that is because I use some social media like a journal/photo album, and the other is because I live halfway across the country from most of my family and friends...and especially when it come to grandparents, that matters.

anunitu
17 May 2016, 08:15
Indeed it does Thal..as I am one of those said Grand Parents as is my Ex...Our grand puppies are growing so fast!!!!

Medusa
17 May 2016, 09:26
I do post a lot of pictures...but part of that is because I use some social media like a journal/photo album, and the other is because I live halfway across the country from most of my family and friends...and especially when it come to grandparents, that matters.

Yeah but your pics of your kids are pretty cool.

thalassa
17 May 2016, 14:03
Lol! It helps that they are hams...

faye_cat
17 May 2016, 16:19
Also, as a photographer, mother, aunt, etc....I do not understand overly dramatic gender reveals. They bug me. So much. And when I see professional photography for that, along with like 70 images (at most I could understand 3-7 depending on the method), it drives me crazy.

ThePaganMafia
17 May 2016, 19:01
I do like to post pictures of the kid when I have him.

I also like to post pictures when I travel. I dont like to take a lot of pictures of myself though. I wish I had some more pictures. I have almost no good pictures of myself in the military. I just want one good pic of myself in uniform so I can have more ammo in my vain attempt to impress the lasies of the world.

DanieMarie
18 May 2016, 01:45
I do post a lot of pictures...but part of that is because I use some social media like a journal/photo album, and the other is because I live halfway across the country from most of my family and friends...and especially when it come to grandparents, that matters.

I have nothing against that. It's a good way to stay in touch! I actually really enjoy seeing pictures of friends' kids, gardens, homemade meals, projects, and other stuff, and don't even mind if they post daily. It's the people who constantly stage everything like their facebook page is a magazine that bug me. Like, one person in my network got two separate sets of engagement photos done — one when she was first engaged a year ago, and another now. It's like, why? We already got your "Save the Date" card with your first set of professional pics in the mail. Why are you doing it *again*?