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ThatKrazy
21 Apr 2011, 08:04
http://offbeatbride.com/2011/04/pagan-wedding-christian-family

I came across this post on a blog I frequent. I don't have wedding plans or anything, I guess I just watch too much TLC and like to read about creative weddings.

The post and the comments are both a nice read. Does anyone here have experience with coming out or staying in the broomcloset while planning a wedding? Did you just come out to your close family or everyone or no one? Did you have a pagan wedding without telling your guests that it was one? Did you have two separate ceremonies?

Weddings fascinate me, especially pagan ones.

thalassa
21 Apr 2011, 12:14
We had a non-religious traditional wedding ceremony at a wedding chapel at the beach. There was one Bible reading (song of solomon 8:6-7), but thats because its one of my favorite schpiels about love (after 1 corinthians 13, but better suited for a wedding and shorter), and my bridesmaids and myself carried lanterns rather than boquets. Honestly though, we never saw our marriage as a religious event, so it wasn't a big deal.

Celest
21 Apr 2011, 14:11
we also had a non-religious ceremony, in our livingroom on the night of the winter solstice. It was/is a joining of two people with our friends and family as our witnesses. No need for religion; it wasn't christian or pagan. We were just making it legal (we were already living together and had 2 kids.)

Shahaku
18 May 2011, 18:12
I'm in the process of planning a wedding and my fiance and I trying to decide how we want it done. I consider myself a religious person and want a somewhat religious wedding. My fiance is kind of philosophical. Niether of us perscribe to a specific line of faith just yet, however. We are basically planning to write our own vows unless things change between now and then.

volcaniclastic
19 May 2011, 18:35
Marriage is just a business contract these days, anyhow.

Shahaku
08 Jul 2011, 07:21
A friend of mine is deciding basically to stay in the closet basically by having two weddings (a "pre-wedding" and the "real" wedding). The first, the pre-wedding is going to be unofficial the night before, most likely including only myself, her and her fiance. Maybe one or two friends. And will be a Wiccan handfasting type ceremony. The official wedding will be the next night and follow more traditional lines for the majority of family and friends.

Gobae
11 Jul 2011, 05:52
Marriage is just a business contract these days, anyhow.

Actually for most of its existence marriage has been a business contract. It wasn't until the industrial revolution that the concept of marrying for love started to become accepted.

It's always interesting for me when I see just how much we think that the way we're used to things is the way they've always been.

yukanaoe
11 Jul 2011, 06:35
I was still christian at the time i got married so i have no input. we should ask Dufonce what it was like to be in the broom closet at his own wedding.... LOL

Ophidia
11 Jul 2011, 07:07
My husband & I had a handfasting (complete w/a Maypole & potluck) for friends & my family, & a civil wedding done at the local courthouse for his parents & legal purposes. If it wasn't for things like tax breaks & insurance coverage, we'd still just be shacking up.