Deaths

[small-fry666]

Well, a few weeks ago, my (Half) sisters father died. A few of her friends died a few years back; her best friend died of a heart attack on a basket ball court; another friend jumped in front of a train, and another friend did the same thing. The friend that died on the basket ball court comes to her in her dreams, only she has FULL control in her dreams. He keeps saying that he has somthing to tell her, and then saying that he has to go. She told me that when she touches his cloths she can actually feel them; now when he is in her dreams my sister is too scared to talk to him. She is already suicidal, and cuts herself alot and I worry she will do somthing really bad! Her father died of Motor Neurone Disease. Too top it all off, when his wife offered to take care of him, she eventually kicked him out of the house, because she was too lazy to look after him. Less than 24 hours after he died, she sold EVERYTHING he owned, appart from a really nice T.V and an expensive Barbeque.

Any help here?

[Tylluan Penry]

Sorry to hear about this but from what you say your half-sister has no more control in her dreams than most other people. If she had, she would be able to make her friend stay and tell her whatever it is that's so important. And she wouldn't be too scared to talk to him.

The dreams aside, I'm not sure what sort of suggestions to make. If she is suicidal, your halfsister needs professional help, so you should encourage her to get that. Her father's treatment when he was ill was awful, but nobody can do anything about that now. Just concentrate on being there for her - but only up to a point. You are not a substitute for proper medical help and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

And best of luck.

[small-fry666]

Ok thanks!

[kijani]

Sorry to hear about this but from what you say your half-sister has no more control in her dreams than most other people. If she had, she would be able to make her friend stay and tell her whatever it is that's so important. And she wouldn't be too scared to talk to him.

The dreams aside, I'm not sure what sort of suggestions to make. If she is suicidal, your halfsister needs professional help, so you should encourage her to get that. Her father's treatment when he was ill was awful, but nobody can do anything about that now. Just concentrate on being there for her - but only up to a point. You are not a substitute for proper medical help and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

And best of luck.

I agree with this whole-heartedly. Get her some help. If she is acting as you say she is, then get her to a doctor. She can even go willingly and sign herself in I believe. If her issues are psychological, there's really nothing you can do for her, especially not for something so serious. You aren't a doctor, but maybe suggest to her going to talk to someone. Sometimes having an uninvolved third party to talk to really helps with things.

Sometimes there's not always a home remedy for things.

[Clive]

There's nothing wrong at all with professional counseling. It seems that even today there remains the belief that only psychotics and schizophrenics see psychological doctors, but in truth, dealing with that much death and mistreatment in such a short period of time would be hard on anybody. Hell, dealing with one death is hard for most people...it makes us question our own mortality.

I personally don't feel that your sister is truly suicidal, only frightened and in need of an outlet. Of course, I could be wrong and these things can progress into true suicide attempts, which is all the more reason for her to seek professional help. I believe she is at a point when healing can come as easily as it possibly can.