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    Rituals for coming of age?

    I wasn't sure where to put this, but this seems like a good enough spot...I guess it could go in parenting too, but I'm more interested in the ritual aspect.

    Has anyone here ever participated into a coming of age ceremony? My kids have a little while to go, but its something that I've been thinking about. Western culture doesn't seem to do a very good job with this, and I'm looking for a way to mark the different milestones of their life. If you have, what was the ceremony or ritual like? If you haven't, do you have any ideas of what might have interested you? What about any differences for genders? Do you think menarche should be a milestone for girls?
    A human being is part of the whole, called by us 'Universe,' limited in time and space. He experiences himself...as something separated from the rest--a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a prison for us... Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the of whole nature in its beauty...
    --Albert Einstein
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    I'm all for celebrating menarche, I want my daughter/s to feel that menstruation is a positive thing, even if it can be a nuisance
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    Seen the desert and the birds
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      Re: Rituals for coming of age?

      I celebrated menopause - I celebrate it every day! So happy to be rid of that horrible ordeal.
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        Re: Rituals for coming of age?

        ...I bought Phee her first (sports) bra. Quelle horreur.
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          Originally posted by thalassa View Post
          ...I bought Phee her first (sports) bra. Quelle horreur.
          My mother refused to buy me a bra. But I got teased at school, so my girlfriends went out with me to get one. I hid it in my school bag and only put it on when I got to school. My period came over a year later.
          ThorSon's milkshake brings all the PF girls to the yard - Volcaniclastic

          RIP

          I have never been across the way
          Seen the desert and the birds
          You cut your hair short
          Like a shush to an insult
          The world had been yelling
          Since the day you were born
          Revolting with anger
          While it smiled like it was cute
          That everything was shit.
          - J. Wylder

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            #6
            Re: Rituals for coming of age?

            Originally posted by thalassa View Post
            ...I bought Phee her first (sports) bra. Quelle horreur.
            Jesus, how old is she now?


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              #7
              Re: Rituals for coming of age?

              Originally posted by volcaniclastic View Post
              Jesus, how old is she now?
              Almost 10...she doesn't need a bra for size, but for active kid+chafing and breast buds. So, sports bra for running and gymnastics and such. She's the one that wanted one. You should have seen the look on Hubby's face...I thought he was going to cry.
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                Originally posted by thalassa View Post

                Almost 10...she doesn't need a bra for size, but for active kid+chafing and breast buds. So, sports bra for running and gymnastics and such. She's the one that wanted one. You should have seen the look on Hubby's face...I thought he was going to cry.
                Golly, I was 12 at least
                ThorSon's milkshake brings all the PF girls to the yard - Volcaniclastic

                RIP

                I have never been across the way
                Seen the desert and the birds
                You cut your hair short
                Like a shush to an insult
                The world had been yelling
                Since the day you were born
                Revolting with anger
                While it smiled like it was cute
                That everything was shit.
                - J. Wylder

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                  #9
                  Re: Rituals for coming of age?

                  Originally posted by Heka View Post
                  Golly, I was 12 at least
                  I was 10 when I started wearing a bra & 9 when I had my 1st period, so she's gotten a little reprieve from genetics.
                  Last edited by thalassa; 03 Jan 2017, 17:41.
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                    #10
                    Originally posted by thalassa View Post

                    I was 10 when I started wearing a bra & 9 when I had my 1st period, so she's gotten a little reprieve from genetics.
                    Dang. 12 and 14 here
                    ThorSon's milkshake brings all the PF girls to the yard - Volcaniclastic

                    RIP

                    I have never been across the way
                    Seen the desert and the birds
                    You cut your hair short
                    Like a shush to an insult
                    The world had been yelling
                    Since the day you were born
                    Revolting with anger
                    While it smiled like it was cute
                    That everything was shit.
                    - J. Wylder

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                      #11
                      Re: Rituals for coming of age?

                      Maybe the proper ceremony would be a day at the spa.
                      A human being is part of the whole, called by us 'Universe,' limited in time and space. He experiences himself...as something separated from the rest--a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a prison for us... Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the of whole nature in its beauty...
                      --Albert Einstein

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                        Re: Rituals for coming of age?

                        I have never been apart of any coming of age ritual but have day dreamed many times about what I'd like to do with my future kids. I ended up with a son and I plan to do something with him that involves being in the woods. Similar to all those native american stories of becoming a man by being sent into the woods....blah blah blah. So the modern version would be camping? lol. I'm sure we will add in a ritual concept somewhere and I will most likely wing it....taken I'm allowed to actually be the one to do it since it is more a guy thing. Immortal_Dragon might decide different being more Norse oriented than me. I guess we'll figure it out when our son gets older. We got several years to decide since Jacob is only 2 yr old.

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                          #13
                          Re: Rituals for coming of age?

                          Originally posted by Heka View Post
                          Dang. 12 and 14 here
                          Fourteen?! You lucky late bloomer. I was 10 for a bra, 11 for menstruation. I was the first kid in the changeroom who needed to wear a bra in my grade. Because kids in the 90s were assholes, this meant that my gym strip found it's way into a toilet on more than one occasion. ...but seriously though. I don't understand bullying. I got picked on SO HARD for needing a sports bra at 10, and then when I turned 11 and got my period, I was called a slut.

                          I didn't even like boys at that age!


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                            #14
                            Originally posted by volcaniclastic View Post

                            Fourteen?! You lucky late bloomer. I was 10 for a bra, 11 for menstruation. I was the first kid in the changeroom who needed to wear a bra in my grade. Because kids in the 90s were assholes, this meant that my gym strip found it's way into a toilet on more than one occasion. ...but seriously though. I don't understand bullying. I got picked on SO HARD for needing a sports bra at 10, and then when I turned 11 and got my period, I was called a slut.

                            I didn't even like boys at that age!
                            That shit f***s me off. Royally. Kids like that in my care get logic shoved down their throats very quickly.
                            ThorSon's milkshake brings all the PF girls to the yard - Volcaniclastic

                            RIP

                            I have never been across the way
                            Seen the desert and the birds
                            You cut your hair short
                            Like a shush to an insult
                            The world had been yelling
                            Since the day you were born
                            Revolting with anger
                            While it smiled like it was cute
                            That everything was shit.
                            - J. Wylder

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