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[GypsySeaWitch]

I have major issues with trusting people. Once someone messes up more than one I have a hard time forgiving them and learning to trust them again. I don't know why I do this, but it's starting to get annoying and is causing a bit of paranoia. I don't think the world is out to get me, but just that people are doing things behind my back and whatnot. Anyone got some ideas on how I can control this? I was thinking of doing some meditations and some work with my chakras to help. Any ideas on just what meditation I should try or chakras I need to work with?

[Shadow_Dragon]

Trust should not just be given out freely. Trust should be earned. People will screw you over the first time they get a chance if you let them even if it's not intentionally. I'm not saying the world is out to get you just that people as a whole can't be trusted, atleast not fully. Some people can be trusted with certain things like you might trust a friend not to steal from you..etc. But trusting anyone in all areas is not smart and will just lead to you getting hurt. It's good to be cautious at times because people do do things behind other peoples backs alot. Being paranoid all the time is just tiring and will leave you feeling drained. I'd just be cautious instead. Let people earn your trust before you give it out. That's the best I can reccomend you to do.

[amber]

I have the same issue as you do GSW.  Chakra work has helped me.  Also, What has really helped me is to banish those feelings of mistrust and paranoia.  You can do that how ever you like to really.  I do it by ritually writing those nasty feelings down and burning them.

[ArCh@IcStraIN]

GypsySeaWitch, while I do agree that trust should not just be handed out like candy on Halloween, I feel that the network of friends and family that we have to support us is infinitly important and it's value immeasurable.  If you are having issues with one of these important people in your life, talking the issue out with the person may help and may also rebuild that bridge of trust that was so easily burned.  If it is the issue within that you struggle with, than work on that fear of being hurt.  These fears are the root issue and not so much the individual incidences.  Imagine that fear before you and let it go.  Pull that fear out of yourself and send it on it's way.  You can also make a tangible sacrifice and write it on a piece of paper and burn that fear away.  But if you do this, make sure you are within the act so that you clear the fear from you.  Also, for some chakra help, research the root chakra and work from there.  I hope this helped and good luck.

[Mairte]

I have had much those same issues and it bothered me until I realized, as has been said, that trust should be earned. I think not trusting someone we arent familiar with is kind of a self preservation technique.
I agree that if the problem you are having is with the key people in your life, try to talk it through.
Re-assess the relationship if that doesnt work, you may be not trusting the person for a reason.

[GypsySeaWitch]

I totally agree that trust must be earned. But it's not building trust with new people that's a problem but people I've known for a long time. So yeah it's the important people in my life. I guess I've just had so much happen to me in the past where people broke my trust over and over again that now once someone does it once I think they'll do it again. And it always seems to be about small things, but I guess I'm viewing a few small things as a couple of big things. It's something I'm trying to work on. I think I'm going to do a banishing ritual for this fear and work on some meditations to help. And the idea of talking to some of the people about this issue is possible for only a few of the people I have this issue with. The ones I can tell about it, I will talk to soon so to help rebuild trust and everything. Thanks for all the advice.