I watched a video last night that was of Mark Canlis at Roots of American Food, its about taking care of those that work in the hospitality industry. His ideas are mind blowing to me, and completely inspiring. If I could I would pack up everything we owned and move us to Seattle to work for this man.
And from this video its brought a lot of questions to the light that I and the women I work with have. Five years ago when I started at the hotel three of us formed a friendship that has lasted. In the last year we have all gotten married and two of the three of us have bought houses, and it seems the next step is babies. We all three want them but with them comes lots of other responsibilities and hard decisions.
We are at points where we want to spend time with our spouses and take care of our homes. We don't want to spend 10-12 hours a day at work but we also don't want to give up what we've worked for. I love working dinner service. I love working dinner service on the weekends. I love that adrenaline, that fire, and I love when I have truly made someones dinner something special. It doesn't happen all the time but every now and then it blows my mind to have a guest walk up to our line (were an open kitchen) and say "Hey Chefs, dinner was great and you guys are doing an amazing job! Or when a server comes up to me and goes "Hey will you wave at 302 you made their dinner tonight and they loved watching you, its the best Salmon they have ever had."
So how do we have it all? How do you have it all? The time to spend at home, to raise your kids (or furrykids) to maintain your home. To keep your relationships going and still have a successful career? Because I don't want to give up my career. I don't want to give up all that I have worked for but I don't want to get a divorce 5,10,15 years down the road because my job took prescience over my relationship with my husband.
And we've pondered this a lot lately it seems. Sometimes to ourselves and sometimes with each other. If I'm going to have kids I want to be a part of their raising. I don't want a Nanny to do it but from what I've seen I have to sacrifice something. I either give up that time with my husband and kids for that career or I give up that career...
They are hard questions for me and I feel there are no easy answers. I want it all and to eat my cake too but I don't know how to accomplish it.
And from this video its brought a lot of questions to the light that I and the women I work with have. Five years ago when I started at the hotel three of us formed a friendship that has lasted. In the last year we have all gotten married and two of the three of us have bought houses, and it seems the next step is babies. We all three want them but with them comes lots of other responsibilities and hard decisions.
We are at points where we want to spend time with our spouses and take care of our homes. We don't want to spend 10-12 hours a day at work but we also don't want to give up what we've worked for. I love working dinner service. I love working dinner service on the weekends. I love that adrenaline, that fire, and I love when I have truly made someones dinner something special. It doesn't happen all the time but every now and then it blows my mind to have a guest walk up to our line (were an open kitchen) and say "Hey Chefs, dinner was great and you guys are doing an amazing job! Or when a server comes up to me and goes "Hey will you wave at 302 you made their dinner tonight and they loved watching you, its the best Salmon they have ever had."
So how do we have it all? How do you have it all? The time to spend at home, to raise your kids (or furrykids) to maintain your home. To keep your relationships going and still have a successful career? Because I don't want to give up my career. I don't want to give up all that I have worked for but I don't want to get a divorce 5,10,15 years down the road because my job took prescience over my relationship with my husband.
And we've pondered this a lot lately it seems. Sometimes to ourselves and sometimes with each other. If I'm going to have kids I want to be a part of their raising. I don't want a Nanny to do it but from what I've seen I have to sacrifice something. I either give up that time with my husband and kids for that career or I give up that career...
They are hard questions for me and I feel there are no easy answers. I want it all and to eat my cake too but I don't know how to accomplish it.
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