I'm new here, my name is StrodeTheBull. Hi.
I've considered myself Pagan or Heathen for maybe five years now, but I've always been this way in my heart and soul. My beliefs are simple and I follow no path; I merely revere my ancestors, the natural world, and sometimes the Gods of my pre-Christian people.
I don't meet many women purely because not many really strike me enough to make me interested. However, earlier this year one hit me hard. I asked her out, and she said yes. We have more-or-less been dating half a year. One problem: She's very, very Christian and doesn't know I'm not. In fact, her father is a preacher at a Baptist church.
This has never seemed like a problem to me, because my beliefs I keep private. I'm only "pagan" when I'm alone in the woods. Here's where the problem comes in, she wants me to join her church. I've already been going to her church with her for about half a year, but it isn't enough. She refuses to take me seriously unless I'm with her %100. (that's what I gather anyway..)
My not telling her doesn't feel like a lie to me, because I respect her and her faith enough to genuinely be there for her. I'm not lying when I say I like her church and the people there, I just don't follow Christ. My beliefs are my own business, and if I respect her beliefs and will never get in the way of them, why should she have to know? I'll certainly never tell her.
It hurts because I care for her. But it also hurts because I'm losing myself in her world.
I need advice from fellow Pagans. Continue to keep my beliefs inside, like I do already? Or open myself up and lose her utterly?
I've considered myself Pagan or Heathen for maybe five years now, but I've always been this way in my heart and soul. My beliefs are simple and I follow no path; I merely revere my ancestors, the natural world, and sometimes the Gods of my pre-Christian people.
I don't meet many women purely because not many really strike me enough to make me interested. However, earlier this year one hit me hard. I asked her out, and she said yes. We have more-or-less been dating half a year. One problem: She's very, very Christian and doesn't know I'm not. In fact, her father is a preacher at a Baptist church.
This has never seemed like a problem to me, because my beliefs I keep private. I'm only "pagan" when I'm alone in the woods. Here's where the problem comes in, she wants me to join her church. I've already been going to her church with her for about half a year, but it isn't enough. She refuses to take me seriously unless I'm with her %100. (that's what I gather anyway..)
My not telling her doesn't feel like a lie to me, because I respect her and her faith enough to genuinely be there for her. I'm not lying when I say I like her church and the people there, I just don't follow Christ. My beliefs are my own business, and if I respect her beliefs and will never get in the way of them, why should she have to know? I'll certainly never tell her.
It hurts because I care for her. But it also hurts because I'm losing myself in her world.
I need advice from fellow Pagans. Continue to keep my beliefs inside, like I do already? Or open myself up and lose her utterly?
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