First off, I would like to say that this is not a post to complain about my life, but rather to get opinions from all of you on the situation.
My boyfriend is very atheist. When I discovered Wicca about a year into our relationship, he looked into it as well and decided that he agreed with the lifestyle, but not being a theist, could not truly belong to any religion (in his opinion). So, it's been a year and we've lived in this arrangement... Me living full out Wiccan, him living as a sort of a mix between an atheist and a Pagan.
Twice over the past couple of days I have said something along the lines of "Thank the Lord and Lady", as just an expression and not necessarily a prayer. Once, I thanked Them for autocorrect on my cell phone, and the other I thanked Them for my boyfriend's safe trip home late at night.
Yesterday, the second time this occurred, he basically lost it with me, telling me that it made me feel uncomfortable when I say such things. Then, after neglecting to talk to me for four hours (after I had had a nightmare the night before of this very thing happening-- which he was aware of...) he let me know (over text message) the following:
"I think religion is going to be a problem. And I will back away if it is. I left it a long time ago for a reason."
I tried to explain to him that it's okay for us to believe different things, and eventually he put up with it and agreed with me... Things are alright now, but I must admit that I'm a little unsettled about the situation.
So my questions to all of you are these:
What is your opinion of what happened?
Have you had similar things happen to you?
How would you have dealt with the situation?
Do you agree or disagree with what he said?
My boyfriend is very atheist. When I discovered Wicca about a year into our relationship, he looked into it as well and decided that he agreed with the lifestyle, but not being a theist, could not truly belong to any religion (in his opinion). So, it's been a year and we've lived in this arrangement... Me living full out Wiccan, him living as a sort of a mix between an atheist and a Pagan.
Twice over the past couple of days I have said something along the lines of "Thank the Lord and Lady", as just an expression and not necessarily a prayer. Once, I thanked Them for autocorrect on my cell phone, and the other I thanked Them for my boyfriend's safe trip home late at night.
Yesterday, the second time this occurred, he basically lost it with me, telling me that it made me feel uncomfortable when I say such things. Then, after neglecting to talk to me for four hours (after I had had a nightmare the night before of this very thing happening-- which he was aware of...) he let me know (over text message) the following:
"I think religion is going to be a problem. And I will back away if it is. I left it a long time ago for a reason."
I tried to explain to him that it's okay for us to believe different things, and eventually he put up with it and agreed with me... Things are alright now, but I must admit that I'm a little unsettled about the situation.
So my questions to all of you are these:
What is your opinion of what happened?
Have you had similar things happen to you?
How would you have dealt with the situation?
Do you agree or disagree with what he said?
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