Re: addictions
I struggle with drinking still. When I'm on my own, it's pretty easy not to (usually), but as soon as I am around it, I just need to drink. You might say, "Just hang out with people that are sober," well, none of my friends are sober- literally. We all have our toxic indulgence. Telling somebody to just quite, not to be rude, is a bad idea. That causes one to suppress an urge and when most people, especially addicts suppress an urge, the addiction festers beneath the skin until they binge. Some can go cold turkey, but that is very rare, especially for the dependent ones.
What I would suggest is to just slow down little by little. Your friend may never quite drinking all together (they might not really want to quite, but just to tone it down) but by slowly edging off the harder alcohol, or higher content alcohol, and keeping close attention to how many drinks they have had in an hour. What I did when I was trying hard not to get too drunk (and learn my tolerance) is check the time whenever I had a shot or opened a beer. I took a mental not of how many I had in the span of the party/drinking session and how I felt during and after the party/drinking session and how I felt the next day. If I drank and felt fine, drunk but not belligerent, and woke up feeling fine, than that is my tolerance. If I felt like crap, then I obviously over did it.
I hope this helps.
I struggle with drinking still. When I'm on my own, it's pretty easy not to (usually), but as soon as I am around it, I just need to drink. You might say, "Just hang out with people that are sober," well, none of my friends are sober- literally. We all have our toxic indulgence. Telling somebody to just quite, not to be rude, is a bad idea. That causes one to suppress an urge and when most people, especially addicts suppress an urge, the addiction festers beneath the skin until they binge. Some can go cold turkey, but that is very rare, especially for the dependent ones.
What I would suggest is to just slow down little by little. Your friend may never quite drinking all together (they might not really want to quite, but just to tone it down) but by slowly edging off the harder alcohol, or higher content alcohol, and keeping close attention to how many drinks they have had in an hour. What I did when I was trying hard not to get too drunk (and learn my tolerance) is check the time whenever I had a shot or opened a beer. I took a mental not of how many I had in the span of the party/drinking session and how I felt during and after the party/drinking session and how I felt the next day. If I drank and felt fine, drunk but not belligerent, and woke up feeling fine, than that is my tolerance. If I felt like crap, then I obviously over did it.
I hope this helps.
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