I could use some advice on a situation, but let me give you a little history. I've been with my SO for about 5 years now, and we have a 3 year old little girl together plus she has two older kids (my "bonus kids" as I hate the term "step-___"). We have been to hell and back together, through a tremendous life changing event, and through deep depression and many bad decisions (oft on my part).
She has stuck by me the whole way, and for that I'm terribly grateful. I'm also very grateful for our daughter ... no matter what's happened or will happen, she is and always will be my most precious achievement. However, I think the chaos has taken its toll on our relationship. We've both changed, and I don't know if either of us is capable of getting back to the person we were before ... the person we each fell in love with. There's so much resentment and anger on both sides that we just can't seem to be reasonable with each other.
When we met and fell in love, it was the most fantastic time of both our lives. Now, it's more bad than good (a lot more bad). We never got married, never saw the point in defining our relationship with the state. I guess that makes things a little easier for us if we decide to go our separate ways, but my question is this ... do we break up or do we take a break? If we take a break, how long? and should I move out of the house?
P.S. Don't ask me what's happened, I am not willing to explain the whole ordeal.
She has stuck by me the whole way, and for that I'm terribly grateful. I'm also very grateful for our daughter ... no matter what's happened or will happen, she is and always will be my most precious achievement. However, I think the chaos has taken its toll on our relationship. We've both changed, and I don't know if either of us is capable of getting back to the person we were before ... the person we each fell in love with. There's so much resentment and anger on both sides that we just can't seem to be reasonable with each other.
When we met and fell in love, it was the most fantastic time of both our lives. Now, it's more bad than good (a lot more bad). We never got married, never saw the point in defining our relationship with the state. I guess that makes things a little easier for us if we decide to go our separate ways, but my question is this ... do we break up or do we take a break? If we take a break, how long? and should I move out of the house?
P.S. Don't ask me what's happened, I am not willing to explain the whole ordeal.
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