Re: So, Poly amorous relationships
80-90% of my friends are engaged in healthy polyamorous relationships, so I know it works. I'm polyamorous but I'm currently in a functionally monoamorous/monosexual relationship. That doesn't mean that I don't love others, only that my situation and theirs prevents us from having a polyamorous union (distance being the primary factor). I'm currently in love with five individuals, and I don't see that number decreasing any time in the near future.
I know that for many jealousy is an issue (especially as expressed here in this thread), but this, like its root greed, is a learned concept and can equally be unlearned if one is willing. It's alarming (and a bit disappointing) to me how unwilling many pagans are to let go of greed. Most polyamorous people I know are somewhere in the nontheistic spectrum with a smattering of Christians and Jews, and I can't count among the pagans that I know personally (outside of my own path) a single practicing polyamorous one among them.
As for my religion, we support ethical polyamory 100%. We teach against jealousy and greed as the artificial constructs that they are. We also condone polygamy, which is, by definition, multiple marriage regardless of the number, arrangement, or gender of those involved (polyGYNY is one man, many women, not polygamy, as many misuse the term; polyandry is one woman, many men). We also support all forms of sexual and gender expressions between consenting adults, and we perform religious marriage or partnership ceremonies for any individual who wants them, regardless of whether it will be civilly recognized. So if one wanted, within the framework of Ōraḥ Qaḏəmōnī, they could have a boyfriend, a girlfriend, a husband, and a wife who all had spouses and partners of their own as well.
80-90% of my friends are engaged in healthy polyamorous relationships, so I know it works. I'm polyamorous but I'm currently in a functionally monoamorous/monosexual relationship. That doesn't mean that I don't love others, only that my situation and theirs prevents us from having a polyamorous union (distance being the primary factor). I'm currently in love with five individuals, and I don't see that number decreasing any time in the near future.
I know that for many jealousy is an issue (especially as expressed here in this thread), but this, like its root greed, is a learned concept and can equally be unlearned if one is willing. It's alarming (and a bit disappointing) to me how unwilling many pagans are to let go of greed. Most polyamorous people I know are somewhere in the nontheistic spectrum with a smattering of Christians and Jews, and I can't count among the pagans that I know personally (outside of my own path) a single practicing polyamorous one among them.
As for my religion, we support ethical polyamory 100%. We teach against jealousy and greed as the artificial constructs that they are. We also condone polygamy, which is, by definition, multiple marriage regardless of the number, arrangement, or gender of those involved (polyGYNY is one man, many women, not polygamy, as many misuse the term; polyandry is one woman, many men). We also support all forms of sexual and gender expressions between consenting adults, and we perform religious marriage or partnership ceremonies for any individual who wants them, regardless of whether it will be civilly recognized. So if one wanted, within the framework of Ōraḥ Qaḏəmōnī, they could have a boyfriend, a girlfriend, a husband, and a wife who all had spouses and partners of their own as well.
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