And I don't mean the purposeful kind.
I've been friends with this man for about five years. He's interning at a law firm, he has a job at Home Depot, he has a lot of friends, but any conversation with him invariably ends up on the subject of how pathetic/ stupid/ worthless/ fat/ ugly/ useless he is.
I understand he's depressed. He's actually being treated for it, but I do realize that doesn't make it all magically better. The problem I'm having is that it *never* gets any better. Every time I talk to him it ends up with me having to bolster his ego. Pointing out the fact that I have to keep propping him up just makes things worse because then he feels even more pathetic for needing the ego boost.
I like talking to him and we can geek out over the dumbest things but I am exhausted!
The other day he had a tweet featured on TV and I was glad he was happy about something but five minutes later he tossed out a line about how pathetic he was and I just thought: I can't do this anymore.
Should I give him the ultimatum that I'll end all future conversation when it starts going downhill or just cut all contact? I honestly don't think he can stop.
I've been friends with this man for about five years. He's interning at a law firm, he has a job at Home Depot, he has a lot of friends, but any conversation with him invariably ends up on the subject of how pathetic/ stupid/ worthless/ fat/ ugly/ useless he is.
I understand he's depressed. He's actually being treated for it, but I do realize that doesn't make it all magically better. The problem I'm having is that it *never* gets any better. Every time I talk to him it ends up with me having to bolster his ego. Pointing out the fact that I have to keep propping him up just makes things worse because then he feels even more pathetic for needing the ego boost.
I like talking to him and we can geek out over the dumbest things but I am exhausted!
The other day he had a tweet featured on TV and I was glad he was happy about something but five minutes later he tossed out a line about how pathetic he was and I just thought: I can't do this anymore.
Should I give him the ultimatum that I'll end all future conversation when it starts going downhill or just cut all contact? I honestly don't think he can stop.
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