The Concept of Modesty

[Cerdivae Song]

Is it just me, or does anyone else get very bothered when you're told you're not modest?
It bothers me because modesty is a concept. And I don't care for it, so I don't really care whether you think I am or not. >n<
Stop telling me to put on more clothes; I don't like them.
Stupid, short rant, but I did need to get it off of my chest.

[B. de Corbin]

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LOL - I'm very modest in public.

At home, I don't wear pants.

Never come for a visit when you're not expected

[Rhaethe]

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Hmmm ... Honestly, no. That being said, I tend to be more modest than some. I like clothes, and I like clothes to cover me. So I suppose the question to me instead would be "Do you get bothered if someone tells you to stop being prudish?" And in answer, any kind of judgey sort of comment directed to me in that way (that is, someone telling me 'Stop being so prudish") would bother me a tad, yes.

It doesn't happen often, however. Only in specific situations, for example, at a pool party, I will get fussed at for not being in a bikini or whatever. If I wanted to swim, I would wear a swimsuit in a style of my choosing (often a sports bra, tank top, and shorts in water wicking fabric). If I do not want to swim, I will wear capris and a tshirt which I find quite comfortable.

[Medusa]

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People tend not to actually come up to me and say anything about my behavior and or dress.
They know better.

[nbdy]

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Yep, Raethe nailed it. It is not so much the statement as the judging. Nobody likes being judged, and yet we all do it. I am guilty, too, but I have learned to (usually) keep my mouth shut long enough to come to my senses. One of the perks of middle age, I guess.

[Gleb]

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I am with nbdy here. Before I get out of our flat I try to find something normal to wear. Not something very fabulous. Something normal, that's all. It's ok to want to dress good. It just means these people try to enjoy their life.

[B. de Corbin]

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Driving through town today, I passed a young lady in a ity-bitty black bikini.

I have no complaints.

[Medusa]

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Driving through town today, I passed a young lady in a ity-bitty black bikini.

I have no complaints.

What if the itty bitty black bikini was on a five foot gal about 300?
Of course you wouldn't be able to actually see it...but you get my drift.

[MoonRaven]

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The "funny" thing is that it's mostly, if not exclusively, women who gets the you're not modest/too prudish comments, as if everyone else gets a say in how we dress or why we do so.
We should dress nicely, but not too provocatively. We must wear makeup, but not too much. We should "make something of ourselves", but if we care too much how we look we're "shallow". I mean it's been ages since the story of Kraka was first told, but it still feels like we're all her.
(Maybe I should take this to the rant thread...)

[B. de Corbin]

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What if the itty bitty black bikini was on a five foot gal about 300?
Of course you wouldn't be able to actually see it...but you get my drift.

LOL - still no complaints.

My eyes have a control center somewhere in my head. I can choose what I look at.

[Bjorn]

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What if the itty bitty black bikini was on a five foot gal about 300?
Of course you wouldn't be able to actually see it...but you get my drift.

This is exactly why I dress as modest as the heat in KS will allow me.

[nbdy]

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The "funny" thing is that it's mostly, if not exclusively, women who gets the you're not modest/too prudish comments, as if everyone else gets a say in how we dress or why we do so.
We should dress nicely, but not too provocatively. We must wear makeup, but not too much. We should "make something of ourselves", but if we care too much how we look we're "shallow". I mean it's been ages since the story of Kraka was first told, but it still feels like we're all her.
(Maybe I should take this to the rant thread...)

Oh, yeah. Though here has been an increase in the objectification of men. Not exactly the balance I was looking for ....

[Medusa]

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I see girls all the time on the bus just dressing in a way that says 'Hey! Look at me!'. But they don't get that EVERY single eye will be on them. Even the ones they don't want. I don't say a damn thing. I don't judge. I don't have to. They will learn the lesson the easy way (as in some mean girl mall rat calling them out on their waist high shorts that show their camel toe) or in that other way we all say doesn't happen because of what we wear, or shouldn't happen because of what we wear, but does, indeed happen because of what we wear.

[B. de Corbin]

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If it's on display, people will look at it.

If one doesn't want to be looked at, one doesn't put oneself on display.

But those who put themselves on display and then get pissed because others look at them are acting like idiot children.

IMHO.

[MoonRaven]

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If it's on display, people will look at it.

If one doesn't want to be looked at, one doesn't put oneself on display.

But those who put themselves on display and then get pissed because others look at them are acting like idiot children.

IMHO.

Now I can't, and won't presume, to speak for everyone, but for me it's not the stares that bothers me. Those that want to stare can go right ahead and do so, most people who dress in an out-of-the-ordinary or attention calling fashion know very well we will get stares, that was never the problem. It's the remarks, catcalls, ect that pisses me off. I didn't dress this way for other people, they can keep their damned comments to themselves.