Re: Expectations in SO Relationships
Oh, Chain, I am sorry.
I've always reminded my children of a case some years ago, where a young woman went missing not all that far from us. She was eventually found murdered but the point was that her family hadn't been worried because she never kept in touch. Never returned phone messages, texts, nothing. For them, not hearing was normal.
For me, not hearing is freaky. I've just got to tell my family, 'I'm off to the market/hospital/doctors etc., will let you know when I'm back.' I remember many years ago, not long after Mr P and I got married, there was a time he was supposed to turn up to give me a lift home and he didn't. I was terrified, even though people kept saying not to worry, he'd just forgotten. Mr P didn't do forgetting (still doesn't). When eventually I got home I discovered he'd been in a four car pile up on his way to fetch me...
I keep in touch with people because I love them. I don't tell them where they should be, what they should be doing. I just want us all to know we're okay. And if I come across as paranoid (and they're probably too polite to tell me) I can't help it.
Cos honestly, sometimes it can be a big bad old world out there. And family is all I've got.
Oh, Chain, I am sorry.
I've always reminded my children of a case some years ago, where a young woman went missing not all that far from us. She was eventually found murdered but the point was that her family hadn't been worried because she never kept in touch. Never returned phone messages, texts, nothing. For them, not hearing was normal.
For me, not hearing is freaky. I've just got to tell my family, 'I'm off to the market/hospital/doctors etc., will let you know when I'm back.' I remember many years ago, not long after Mr P and I got married, there was a time he was supposed to turn up to give me a lift home and he didn't. I was terrified, even though people kept saying not to worry, he'd just forgotten. Mr P didn't do forgetting (still doesn't). When eventually I got home I discovered he'd been in a four car pile up on his way to fetch me...
I keep in touch with people because I love them. I don't tell them where they should be, what they should be doing. I just want us all to know we're okay. And if I come across as paranoid (and they're probably too polite to tell me) I can't help it.
Cos honestly, sometimes it can be a big bad old world out there. And family is all I've got.
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