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    Just went to my Grandmothers funeral not sure how I feel.

    As a non-christian I am not sure how I feel after seeing her in the coffin and as the only member of my family to speak besides the reverend. I felt very odd and strange after the reverend stated that she would be watching me , this bothered me a lot I am not sure what to think or feel I just haven't been myself after this. Also this was the first funeral I have ever attended in my life I am 21 years old if it helps. Has anyone else had any such experience or advice ?

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    Re: Just went to my Grandmothers funeral not sure how I feel.

    How did she say it? Like I'm watching you evil glare. Or I'm watching you kindly gonna keep an eye on you.
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      #3
      Re: Just went to my Grandmothers funeral not sure how I feel.

      No the reverend said her last regret was not seeing me graduate from college etc and that she was watching us from heaven i donr believe that but it was unsettling i apolofgize for spelling mistakes im incredibly drunk right now .

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        Re: Just went to my Grandmothers funeral not sure how I feel.

        This might be a dumb question but I'll ask anyway. Did she mean she the reverend would be watching you or you departed grandmother?
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          Re: Just went to my Grandmothers funeral not sure how I feel.

          Originally posted by Sith View Post
          As a non-christian I am not sure how I feel after seeing her in the coffin and as the only member of my family to speak besides the reverend. I felt very odd and strange after the reverend stated that she would be watching me , this bothered me a lot I am not sure what to think or feel I just haven't been myself after this. Also this was the first funeral I have ever attended in my life I am 21 years old if it helps. Has anyone else had any such experience or advice ?
          Usually when (most) Christians state things like your departed loved one will be "watching you", it's intended to be comforting - because, from their perspective, she is in Heaven and will be able to see you from above (i.e. - watch over you, care for you, watch you as you journey along your life's path).

          I've been to far too many funerals - all of them were Christian funerals. My experiences varied depending upon how I felt about the deceased. I've seen preachers preach Hellfire and brimstone and talk about all of the "sins" of the deceased which was utterly despicable.

          But it's confronting, no doubt. Especially if you were close to your grandmother.

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            Re: Just went to my Grandmothers funeral not sure how I feel.

            Was it more unsettling seeing her in her coffin or thinking that she could be possibly watching you? I think it was meant as encouragement. That even though she wasn't with you any more she could still see all that you accomplish.

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            What Torey said.
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              Re: Just went to my Grandmothers funeral not sure how I feel.

              Originally posted by Torey View Post
              Usually when (most) Christians state things like your departed loved one will be "watching you", it's intended to be comforting - because, from their perspective, she is in Heaven and will be able to see you from above (i.e. - watch over you, care for you, watch you as you journey along your life's path).

              I've been to far too many funerals - all of them were Christian funerals. My experiences varied depending upon how I felt about the deceased. I've seen preachers preach Hellfire and brimstone and talk about all of the "sins" of the deceased which was utterly despicable.

              But it's confronting, no doubt. Especially if you were close to your grandmother.
              I don't think I've ever seen a hellfire and brimstone funeral. Pretty sure that would end in pain for someone. My family has its issues but some poor outsider of a preacher talking hellfire and brimstone when we're gathered to mourn one of our own...

              The man better be really well liked by some Power because he may be needing them shortly
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              "But those men who know anything at all about the Light also know that there is a fierceness to its power, like the bare sword of the law, or the white burning of the sun." Suddenly his voice sounded to Will very strong, and very Welsh. "At the very heart, that is. Other things, like humanity, and mercy, and charity, that most good men hold more precious than all else, they do not come first for the Light. Oh, sometimes they are there; often, indeed. But in the very long run the concern of you people is with the absolute good, ahead of all else..."

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                Re: Just went to my Grandmothers funeral not sure how I feel.

                Originally posted by kalynraye View Post
                Was it more unsettling seeing her in her coffin or thinking that she could be possibly watching you? I think it was meant as encouragement. That even though she wasn't with you any more she could still see all that you accomplish.

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                What Torey said.

                Both watching me and seeing a dead body for the first time in my life event thugh morbid things dont bother me tv shows/movies death metal art etc.

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                Originally posted by Torey View Post
                Usually when (most) Christians state things like your departed loved one will be "watching you", it's intended to be comforting - because, from their perspective, she is in Heaven and will be able to see you from above (i.e. - watch over you, care for you, watch you as you journey along your life's path).

                I've been to far too many funerals - all of them were Christian funerals. My experiences varied depending upon how I felt about the deceased. I've seen preachers preach Hellfire and brimstone and talk about all of the "sins" of the deceased which was utterly despicable.

                But it's confronting, no doubt. Especially if you were close to your grandmother.
                I suppose that is what they were aiming for although no one in my family knows that I am not a christian except my parents who suspect that I am just a skeptic or an atheist. Im just not sure where to go on this feeling you know its just weird.

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                  Re: Just went to my Grandmothers funeral not sure how I feel.

                  Originally posted by Sith View Post
                  Both watching me and seeing a dead body for the first time in my life event thugh morbid things dont bother me tv shows/movies death metal art etc.
                  Yes but actually seeing someone you love laying there is very different then seeing stuff on tv and reading about it. You are actually effected by this. This is really happening to you. Its not an easy thing to loose someone close to you. Its hard but the words the reverend said were meant for comfort.

                  Also I agree with MO, we are crazy protective of our kin. We might not get along and we might run our mouths about them but no one else gets to do it. Especially if they are no longer here to defend themselves. Though I would like to see a hellfire and brimstone funereal. I have been to many Sunday services of it but never a funereal. The baptist love hellfire and brimstone services.
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                    Re: Just went to my Grandmothers funeral not sure how I feel.

                    Originally posted by Sith View Post
                    Both watching me and seeing a dead body for the first time in my life event thugh morbid things dont bother me tv shows/movies death metal art etc.

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                    I suppose that is what they were aiming for although no one in my family knows that I am not a christian except my parents who suspect that I am just a skeptic or an atheist. Im just not sure where to go on this feeling you know its just weird.
                    Seeing a dead body is perfectly normal to feel weird about, no matter how peaceful it was, and no matter how much gore you can take in art. It's never real until you're there. In the long run, having seen the person dead can ease the pain of letting them go (this is from personal experience, I was 12 the first time I saw a dead person). But perhaps most importantly you've just lost your grandmother, mourning and feeling strange is ok, normal. A funeral can sometimes make the realisation hit harder... I'm sorry for your loss
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                      #11
                      Re: Just went to my Grandmothers funeral not sure how I feel.

                      I agree with you Kalynraye yes seeing a family member is more traumatic than anything else but the watching part got to me since I like to think that I dont have to worry about my ancestors especially my modern closest family members watching me through my daily life because that just creeps me out.

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                      Originally posted by iris View Post
                      Seeing a dead body is perfectly normal to feel weird about, no matter how peaceful it was, and no matter how much gore you can take in art. It's never real until you're there. In the long run, having seen the person dead can ease the pain of letting them go (this is from personal experience, I was 12 the first time I saw a dead person). But perhaps most importantly you've just lost your grandmother, mourning and feeling strange is ok, normal. A funeral can sometimes make the realisation hit harder... I'm sorry for your loss
                      Thankyou your quite right im noly starting to realise that its okay to feel weird now . thankyou again

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                        I'm very sorry for your loss.
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                          #13
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                          I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your Grandmother. A grandparent is a gift. I carry both my maternal & my paternal grandparents with me every day, & they've been gone for many years. Good luck.....

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