Pagan Pet Peeves

[thalassa]

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But your recons are the ones who go the closest to recreate the ethical, cultural, moral, familial practices that go with it.

And how have you measured such an endeavor?

[DragonsFriend]

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My pet peeve is those who have pet peeves about other Pagans.
Not everyone can be in perfect balance at the same time nor can anyone be in perfect balance all the time.

"Fluffy Bunnies" are possibly Rottweiler pups of the witch world.
People who demand proof should prove their existence before being shown any evidence. There is no proof of deity. It takes faith to get from here to there. The only evidence is subjective. I have invoked deity and in that exchange I saw the potential within myself. we are not meant to worship deity, rather we are partners with deity in creating the life we desire.
Magic is what sleight of hand artists do on stage, Magik is the act of changing the physical through will and word. I do not do card tricks, I create worlds.

[Medusa]

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People who say a lot of words and yet still say absolutely nothing.

[Rae'ya]

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Passive aggressive comments directed at other members are a pet peeve of MINE and will NOT be tolerated in this thread. If I see any more I will rain doom upon the heads of the authors of said comments. Consider yourselves warned.

[Munin-Hugin]

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I've recalled two more peeves, sorta - kinda linked to each other, but not exclusive to each other.

The throwing around and piling on of various "magical" titles. "I'm the high priest of the third degree of the sacred fifth inner circle of the woo woo mastery ..." you get the idea. I could very well shout out titles like that as well, since I'm probably the only one who practices just as I do, so that makes me my own grand high poobaa and expert in my field. A fancy title doesn't earn you respect from me, showing that you're not all piss and wind does.

Along with that, the concept of "if you're not in a coven/society/whatever, you're doing it wrong and don't know what you're talking about". Again, get over yourself. We're all on a path to spiritual enlightenment, so let me do it my way, and you do it your way.

[Shahaku]

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People who overlook pagan history (or any religions history actually) because it's not nice enough or clean enough for them.

[Vanish]

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One of my pet peeves is people throwing around "blessed be" at people without knowing if they're comfortable with it. "Blessed be" is a shorthand form of the Fivefold Kiss, which is ultimately sexual and kind of uncomfortable for some people, especially to have others directing it at them without permission.

Also, how fertility religions are kind of loud in the pagan community, and I'm horribly tokophobic and often sex-repulsed, but there's not much sympathy for me.

And the overall ableism in the community. Treating mentally ill pagans poorly.

>> I have many complaints.

[Jembru]

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One of my pet peeves is people throwing around "blessed be" at people without knowing if they're comfortable with it. "Blessed be" is a shorthand form of the Fivefold Kiss, which is ultimately sexual and kind of uncomfortable for some people, especially to have others directing it at them without permission.

Also, how fertility religions are kind of loud in the pagan community, and I'm horribly tokophobic and often sex-repulsed, but there's not much sympathy for me.

And the overall ableism in the community. Treating mentally ill pagans poorly.

>> I have many complaints.

It sounds like you're mainly talking about wicca, right? Luckily these generalisations aren't true for all wiccans, and far less so for other pagans, so you shouldn't come up against too much of this at PF. Just in case though, to save your head from face-palm injury, here's a few points to keep you sane...

For many wiccans at least those I've come by (and from books I've read), fertility doesn't have to be about sex and reproduction. Babies repulse me, and I have no intention of raising a little joy-sucker for 18+ years (lets face it, unless things dramatically change, that '+' is probably at least 10 years). A plot of land can be fertile, a creative mind can be fertile, a social life can be fertile. When I celebrate a fertility festival, I'm usually asking for mental fertility, because I'm a dedicated language learner and I want to improve as much and as quickly as I can. Then during the harvest I'll give thanks for how much my skills have improved over the growing season. I'm certainly not in the minority in this kind of practice.

Also, my coven (the good one, not the weird one I joined a few years after the good one disbanded) was female only. We did the 5-fold kiss. It was beautiful, and powerful, but not sexual in the sense of wanting to bang one another. My ex girlfriend was in the coven, but even when we were an item, we kept our sex life out of the circle. Also, you'll find if you ask the person who used BB, that most of them won't make the connection you are making. If it wasn't their intention, then I'd simply take it as they meant it, just a greeting and a wish for your wellness.

[Malflick]

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People who overlook pagan history (or any religions history actually) because it's not nice enough or clean enough for them.

This is probably my big one from outside the community. Its frustrating to try to talk about history when people don't want to deal with the reality of it.

[DragonsFriend]

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The "reality" of history depends a great deal on the individuals point of view. As it is often said, "history is written by the victors". That same time period is viewed differently by those involved on different sides.
Once that is accepted then history becomes more fluid and less truth than factual.

[anunitu]

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Pet peeve,do not "Anoint" me with anything without my saying it is ok.....do not blow smoke at me also....or gesture with a long pointy stick...Your "Stick" may become broken in several places and hidden where the sun never shines too.

[Prickly Pear]

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The perfume snipers of the pagan world��?

[Jembru]

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Pet peeve,do not "Anoint" me with anything without my saying it is ok.....do not blow smoke at me also....or gesture with a long pointy stick...Your "Stick" may become broken in several places and hidden where the sun never shines too.

Pagan festival flashbacks!

I'm still on the fence as to whether or not I find adding the 'k' to magic annoying or not. I used to do it when I was in my teens and early twenties. Having learnt of the arguments against doing so, I decided to stop. After all, magic and stage magic are already easily distinguished -by the word 'stage' dammit!! Now I guess the k seems noobish to me, probably because it reminds me of when I thought it was all cool and woo woo to use a weird spelling.

[October]

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Pagan festival flashbacks!

I'm still on the fence as to whether or not I find adding the 'k' to magic annoying or not. I used to do it when I was in my teens and early twenties. Having learnt of the arguments against doing so, I decided to stop. After all, magic and stage magic are already easily distinguished -by the word 'stage' dammit!! Now I guess the k seems noobish to me, probably because it reminds me of when I thought it was all cool and woo woo to use a weird spelling.

I've been having similar doubts myself lately...

[thalassa]

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I admit I mostly have become immune to being annoyed by it, but I wouldn' do it on purpose. I reserve my true pet peeve for stuff like majik, magique, etc.