Medusa's Question Du Jour *the millenium edition!*

[Medusa]

Re: Medusa's Question Du Jour *the millenium edition!*

Which is a more hurtful word: Stupid or Fuck?

[thalassa]

Re: Medusa's Question Du Jour *the millenium edition!*

[quote author=Medusa link=topic=62.msg26682#msg26682 date=1294100819]
Which is a more hurtful word: Stupid or Fuck?
[/quote]

Stupid Fuck.

Seriously though, neither--both depend in the context of use, and whom they are being directed at.

[FantasyWitch]

Re: Medusa's Question Du Jour *the millenium edition!*

Stupid.

[Ophidia]

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Stupid.

My oldest sister has dyslexia and probably a few other learning disabilities on top of it. She spent her entire childhood hearing about how she is stupid (along with dumb, and retarded), from our mom, her dad, her teachers, her friends, her friends' parents. The word was hammered into her multiple times a day. No matter what she did right that word was a constant reminder of everything wrong she ever did. She was in her late 30s before she ever tried to be anything more than 'stupid', and she's still struggling with reversing that crippling affirmation.

'Stupid' is a curse word, in the most literal sense of 'curse'. While I often say that 'I hate stupid people', I would never call anyone 'stupid' to their face. I also realize that I don't consider people 'stupid', it's the things they do or say that are stupid. It's a dirty word in my household, and the households of my sisters. 'Stupid' will get your mouth washed out with soap while 'fuck' is merely a useful noun/adjective/verb/adverb.

[Celest]

Re: Medusa's Question Du Jour *the millenium edition!*

[quote author=Medusa link=topic=62.msg26682#msg26682 date=1294100819]
Which is a more hurtful word: Stupid or Fuck?
[/quote]

depends on the context, but I don't like either

[calfhill]

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I'd rather have someone tell me to "fuck off" than to have them call me stupid. I may not be Dr Michio Kaku, but I'm not stupid.

[WestPagan1]

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Stupid

[Storm]

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[quote author=Medusa link=topic=62.msg26682#msg26682 date=1294100819]
Which is a more hurtful word: Stupid or Fuck?
[/quote]

If the words are being used toward me: stupid. If someone said "fuck you" to me, I'd just blow them a kiss. "You're stupid" would bring out an entirely different response.

[Medusa]

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So how come we are ok with letting kids call each other stupid but get upset if they cuss?

[Celest]

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[quote author=Medusa link=topic=62.msg26736#msg26736 date=1294132391]
So how come we are ok with letting kids call each other stupid but get upset if they cuss?
[/quote]

I am not. I taught my children that it was very mean to call someone stupid. "Sometimes people do stupid things, but you should not call them stupid."

[thalassa]

Re: Medusa's Question Du Jour *the millenium edition!*

[quote author=Medusa link=topic=62.msg26736#msg26736 date=1294132391]
So how come we are ok with letting kids call each other stupid but get upset if they cuss?
[/quote]

Who says *we* are okay with that?

I'm not okay with my kids saying either one.

(although, at this point in his linguistic development, truck, duck and sometimes stuck all sound like fuck if Collin says them...)

[Shadow Dragon]

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Because most adult are condtioned to have a stronger reaction to curse words, as oppose to none-curse insult.One kid calls another stupid, "Meh. they're just kids being kids." A kid calls another a fucker,"Oh dear gods no. this is a sign of the decline of civilization."

[Dumuzi]

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[quote author=Medusa link=topic=62.msg26736#msg26736 date=1294132391]
So how come we are ok with letting kids call each other stupid but get upset if they cuss?
[/quote]

Stupid is a word that is used to describe people, actions and all sorts of things. The word itself isn't the problem, however insulting others and hurting them with your words is what the real problem is.

Actually, children can insult others without using any word whatsoever. If they point and laugh at the fat kid, this can be very harmful and insulting, though they didn't use any word.

[Ophidia]

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[quote author=Medusa link=topic=62.msg26736#msg26736 date=1294132391]
So how come we are ok with letting kids call each other stupid but get upset if they cuss?
[/quote]

Like I mentioned above, in the homes of my sisters, 'stupid' is the absolute worst word you can use. It will get your mouth washed out with soap. My nieces & nephews could call each other 'fucking cunts' all day long & no one would bat an eye, but call someone a 'stupid' whatever & woe betide them. The attitude they all have about the 's'-word has carried over to friends, and I've seen it happen.

[magusphredde]

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[quote author=Medusa link=topic=62.msg26736#msg26736 date=1294132391]
So how come we are ok with letting kids call each other stupid but get upset if they cuss?
[/quote]I'm not ... Both are wrong to me ...