Sorry this is long.
Okay so I've been with Jason for 3 1/2 years now. Within the last year I've been having a problem with him lying. Not over anything major or important but on him lying about him having quit smoking, money spending, and a few other things. White lies I got no problem with, but he will lie straight to my face and tell me I'm paranoid until I actually catch him doing whatever it is and he can't get out of it. It really pisses me off and I don't know what to do as every time he turns it into something that is my fault. Like with the smoking he tried to say he only started smoking again because of my surgeries putting him under stress. He was actually trying to guilt me with it too! Its that way with all his weird little lies too. Anyways, he has a new one. I've noticed that two days in a row he has smelled like marijuana. I know to many that isn't a big deal as lots of people smoke it, but I'm not a fan of drugs and it is illegal in Texas. I can actually get in trouble with my disability if he were to get busted for it and I somehow end up as being involved with it. Not something I want to chance. So when I told him he smelled like marijuana his excuse was that he had done a maintenance job in an apartment where the resident was a major pot head. That was possible as the smell was faint, but then the next day he smelled like it only after he "smoked a cigarette" after we got back from grocery shopping. He tried the same story again, but failed to remember he had changed shirts and it was on his breath this time. He then went into a speech about how he doesn't do drugs and blah blah blah. I tuned him out as all he was trying to do was make me believe him and then he insisted I'm being paranoid again. So far every time he has told me that, I've been right....which just reinforces in my mind that he is lying.
What the heck can I do? My mom says I might be better off leaving him since lying about drugs is a bit more major than cigarettes and the other things he lied about before, and who knows what else he could be lying about. And according to Jason's own mom that is how Jason's dad started out before he began cheating on her and doing crack and many other drugs. So it makes me really worried, but problem is I don't make enough on disability to move out on my own if I wanted to and it would be hard since I've put so much into this relationship. *sigh*
I need advice.
Okay so I've been with Jason for 3 1/2 years now. Within the last year I've been having a problem with him lying. Not over anything major or important but on him lying about him having quit smoking, money spending, and a few other things. White lies I got no problem with, but he will lie straight to my face and tell me I'm paranoid until I actually catch him doing whatever it is and he can't get out of it. It really pisses me off and I don't know what to do as every time he turns it into something that is my fault. Like with the smoking he tried to say he only started smoking again because of my surgeries putting him under stress. He was actually trying to guilt me with it too! Its that way with all his weird little lies too. Anyways, he has a new one. I've noticed that two days in a row he has smelled like marijuana. I know to many that isn't a big deal as lots of people smoke it, but I'm not a fan of drugs and it is illegal in Texas. I can actually get in trouble with my disability if he were to get busted for it and I somehow end up as being involved with it. Not something I want to chance. So when I told him he smelled like marijuana his excuse was that he had done a maintenance job in an apartment where the resident was a major pot head. That was possible as the smell was faint, but then the next day he smelled like it only after he "smoked a cigarette" after we got back from grocery shopping. He tried the same story again, but failed to remember he had changed shirts and it was on his breath this time. He then went into a speech about how he doesn't do drugs and blah blah blah. I tuned him out as all he was trying to do was make me believe him and then he insisted I'm being paranoid again. So far every time he has told me that, I've been right....which just reinforces in my mind that he is lying.
What the heck can I do? My mom says I might be better off leaving him since lying about drugs is a bit more major than cigarettes and the other things he lied about before, and who knows what else he could be lying about. And according to Jason's own mom that is how Jason's dad started out before he began cheating on her and doing crack and many other drugs. So it makes me really worried, but problem is I don't make enough on disability to move out on my own if I wanted to and it would be hard since I've put so much into this relationship. *sigh*
I need advice.
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