friend trying to convert me

[lorraine02]

Re: friend trying to convert me

so lucky for you , and everything will be ok in future.

[Sarkana night]

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Take it easy everyone! We've figured out the problem

[Pellethie]

Re: friend trying to convert me

She knew a lot of me, but not what I believed, since before she moved away I wasn't really sure what to believe in at that time.
Now three years later, when we finally got to meet each other again after she moved away, I told her about my religion which I had figured out meanwhile, and she didn't think that was a good idea. She tried hard to convince me that I should stay away from that religion and never look back.

Having gone through something similar, but even after telling this person (who by the way was non-Christian at one time) that I was quite happy with my path, he wouldn't let up. I had to walk away.

[anunitu]

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As Medusa said we guys do have it a bit easier,at least most of us. I have never had a problem telling someone to stop,and if they persist I can become quite a bit less polite about it. But I have seen guys that have the same problem,they learned they must always be polite. Where I grew up you learned to speak your mind and never let anyone get over on you. If someone thought they could get over,then they would never stop,and everyone else would consider you a "Mark". I grew up in a very poor and sometimes dangerous area,and you learn young and you learn fast,or you got run over. I am very seldom a victim but also I am never the aggressor,I only bring out my Bad ass side if they attack me. Most people I know have learned better than to push my buttons,and I do give them full warning and allow them to have a way to back off. If they persist,I can and will hit them hard and fast. Their actions are seldom repeated,and also the word gets around fast not to push me.

[Sarkana night]

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A good friend knowing who you are and your beliefs attempting to convert you ?

She knew a lot of me, but not what I believed, since before she moved away I wasn't really sure what to believe in at that time.
Now three years later, when we finally got to meet each other again after she moved away, I told her about my religion which I had figured out meanwhile, and she didn't think that was a good idea. She tried hard to convince me that I should stay away from that religion and never look back.

[Pellethie]

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A good friend knowing who you are and your beliefs attempting to convert you ?

[Tylluan Penry]

Re: friend trying to convert me

And if all else fails, ask her, 'Which part of the word No do you not understand?'
Best of luck. It would annoy the hell out of me....

[Sarkana night]

Re: friend trying to convert me

thank you everyone! I really appreciate all your advices.

[SCoyote]

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I would just tell her "I am what I am, either accept it or not....but I am not changing so don't waste your time." The people that love you will love you anyway despite your beliefs. Everyone else, don't make time for them.

[Celtic Tiger]

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I second Medusa's advice. It's really about setting up a boundary in that area. There are a million things that are off the table, even with my closest friends, in discussion. On the rare occasion that those topics are broached, I simply indicate that I am not going there. I'm polite about it, but firm.

[Sarkana night]

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yeah, it sounds like a good idea....thanks!

[Medusa]

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You know I've said this before about us gals. I start to sound like a broken record. Men know how to say a direct sentence and mean it. Women on the other hand? We tend to go way around the bend to say something we mean but end up sounding like we don't really mean it. You can be direct and not be a bitch at the same time. Men do it a billion times a day.

Stop talking about my religion.

The end. And you mean it. You don't explain it. You don't apologize for it. You just say it and start discussing another topic.

[Sarkana night]

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Worst comes to worst, cite the book of Matthew, Ch 10, verse 14.

"If at first they will not receive you and your message, shake the dust from your feet and be gone".

Then bring up how you still want to be friends, just not... you know, a church buddy.

It's not because i dont want to be her friend. we've known each other for very long, and we share many old memories and experiences. i just want a tip to get her understand that we don't have the same religion, and that she must appreciate it.

[AzazelEblis]

Re: friend trying to convert me

Worst comes to worst, cite the book of Matthew, Ch 10, verse 14.

"If at first they will not receive you and your message, shake the dust from your feet and be gone".

Then bring up how you still want to be friends, just not... you know, a church buddy.

[Sarkana night]

Re: friend trying to convert me

thank you very much for the good tip. I'll see what i can do. maybe she'll learn to deal with it. I just hope so, I'm very tired of discussing religious wiews with her all the time.

thanks