The pansy parents thread kind of made me think of this. One thing I feel is kind of missing from a child's life these days is the sense of being raised by a community, not just the child's parents. Anymore, if a stranger reprimands a kid for doing something bad, the stranger has to worry about getting sued or taken in by police. I'm not saying a stranger should smack a kid around, but firmly telling them "No" and sending them on their way even seems frowned on. And worse yet, I think a lot of people just don't care. Like, "Not my kid, not my problem." But all these kids are going to rampant adult in our society right? And when a kid is running around a restaurant disturbing everyone's meal or screaming like their dying because they don't like their choice of crayons and the manager can't even say anything for fear of developing a bad rep, isn't there something wrong with that?
Now, I'm not saying that parents shouldn't be integral in raising their kids. I'm not saying that random people should raise a kid. If parents were doing a good job, incidents like bad restaurant manners wouldn't be so rampant (though I know you can't always avoid a tantrum) But the influence of a community is important, right? And it should be an important part of growing up. Right?
Now, I remember spending time with a lot of my neighbors when I was little and none of them seemed to have a problem sending me on my way when they were tired of me or setting me straight when I was being impolite. And I know it helped me develop into a decent human being. I don't want my kids to miss out on that sense of community. And to top it off, I'm kind of an introvert. I don't have a ton of friends. In fact, I can name three friends that are not a part of my family and I've known them all for four or five years at least. I went through four years of college and came out the other side without a single new lasting contact. I'm fine with that for myself, but I do wonder how it's going to affect my kids since I do want them to have that sense of community which I feel is so important.
So, I guess, what is your opinion in general?
Now, I'm not saying that parents shouldn't be integral in raising their kids. I'm not saying that random people should raise a kid. If parents were doing a good job, incidents like bad restaurant manners wouldn't be so rampant (though I know you can't always avoid a tantrum) But the influence of a community is important, right? And it should be an important part of growing up. Right?
Now, I remember spending time with a lot of my neighbors when I was little and none of them seemed to have a problem sending me on my way when they were tired of me or setting me straight when I was being impolite. And I know it helped me develop into a decent human being. I don't want my kids to miss out on that sense of community. And to top it off, I'm kind of an introvert. I don't have a ton of friends. In fact, I can name three friends that are not a part of my family and I've known them all for four or five years at least. I went through four years of college and came out the other side without a single new lasting contact. I'm fine with that for myself, but I do wonder how it's going to affect my kids since I do want them to have that sense of community which I feel is so important.
So, I guess, what is your opinion in general?
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