Not sure what the best thing to do is here. I could just say grace, but I read that dishonesty isn't a good way to start a spiritual path. My mom doesn't really care either way, if it was just her, I could get away with not saying grace, but I have a feeling my stepfather would mind because he's a devout Christian.
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Re: Couple more months til Thanksgiving, and my mom and stepfather are Christian
Do you have to be the one that says grace? Can you pass it off to someone else? I was asked to say grace once...so I made it interfaith and I was never asked again.
In my family, us Pagans and atheists (we are about 1/4 of the family) just bow our heads and STFU for a few minutes while the Christian types have their moment of worship...as my Uncle says, the Pagan 1/8 (myself, my spouse, and our kids) just say our own prayer in our heads, and the atheist 1/8 (my uncle, his wife, and their kids) think about food.Wonderful Life: The Burgess Shale and the Nature of HistoryPagan Devotionals, because the wind and the rain is our Bible
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Re: Couple more months til Thanksgiving, and my mom and stepfather are Christian
I say grace. I want to give thanks for my food. My husband is Christian. He calls it grace. So I call it grace, it's just easier. We take turns. When it's my turn, I don't direct it to god or say amen. The husband does, but he's usually pretty low key about it.
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Re: Couple more months til Thanksgiving, and my mom and stepfather are Christian
I come from an all pagan upbringing and I have never found it dishonest to say grace. If you were with other pagans and they asked you to join their circle, even if it was not your flavor of paganism, would you respect their path? Why not respect the path of the Christian tradition just for that moment?My posts are generally sent from my cell fone. Please excuse my brevity, and spelling/grammar errors.
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Re: Couple more months til Thanksgiving, and my mom and stepfather are Christian
Originally posted by jcaternolo View PostNot sure what the best thing to do is here. I could just say grace, but I read that dishonesty isn't a good way to start a spiritual path. My mom doesn't really care either way, if it was just her, I could get away with not saying grace, but I have a feeling my stepfather would mind because he's a devout Christian.I often wish that I had done drugs in the '70s. At least there'd be a reason for the flashbacks. - Rick the Runesinger
Blood and Country
Tribe of my Tribe
Clan of my Clan
Kin of my Kin
Blood of my Blood
For the Yule was upon them, the Yule; and they quaffed from the skulls of the slain,
And shouted loud oaths in hoarse wit, and long quaffing swore laughing again.
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I also don't find it offensive to say "grace." You can personally give it to any god of your choosing
I always do a big thanksgiving with my friends here (less than 2 weeks until the Canadian version!) If I don't do it, no one will because it's such a minority thing here and I like to keep a bit of my country's tradition. I don't say grace at all, though I secretly offer a thanks to the turkey that gave its life before I serve it. My friends come from different faiths, and most (including my boyfriend) are atheists and stuff like that makes them a bit uncomfortable. In a multi-faith gathering, sometimes it's just helpful to keep it secular. Sometimes I ask anyone who wants to to talk about what they're thankful for. You don't need a religion to offer up a bit of gratitude for the things you have. Maybe you could try something like that?
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Re: Couple more months til Thanksgiving, and my mom and stepfather are Christian
I know my girlfriend, when in situations like that, prays to her own Gods and keeps it to herself. When I visit my friends who are other religions, such as Hindu, I quietly show the same respect.
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Black Sabbath: Iron ManI often wish that I had done drugs in the '70s. At least there'd be a reason for the flashbacks. - Rick the Runesinger
Blood and Country
Tribe of my Tribe
Clan of my Clan
Kin of my Kin
Blood of my Blood
For the Yule was upon them, the Yule; and they quaffed from the skulls of the slain,
And shouted loud oaths in hoarse wit, and long quaffing swore laughing again.
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Re: Couple more months til Thanksgiving, and my mom and stepfather are Christian
Originally posted by Malflick View PostI know my girlfriend, when in situations like that, prays to her own Gods and keeps it to herself.
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