Re: How to be Happy (as told by Rok)
Chain - you know me, you always seem to ask just the right questions
Ah, yes, that does seem like it might be significant, doesn't it?
Honestly I'm not sure what prompted it, but I'm inclined toward "dumb luck".
See, all of my jobs prior to moving to Portland were just that - miserable shitholes paying me just enough to not quit. When I moved to Portland I took a new tack with the job: I'm not taking on extra shit, and I'm not going to worry too much about other people's problems.
Of course, I failed - working Helpdesk is nearly impossible to do the job well and not be invested in other people's drama, but it was a start.
As far as finding the job that I have now? Well...this was the first time I actively looked for a job while I was already gainfully employed, so that may have played into it - I could afford to be a little more reckless when I was talking to recruiters (the ones that annoy me? They can just screw off - and I tell them). I turned down other jobs too - ones that probably would have paid more and kept me closer to home...but the stress of inner-office politics was really enough for me to turn them down. Many of these places will hire, say, 50 temporary employees. From day one, those temporary employees are competing with each other and full time employees. At the end of 3 months? (or 6, or 9, or whenever they feel like it) they'll take five names out of a hat - whoever has "impressed" the most, or whoever is more visible, or whoever is blowing the boss - whatever. So I turned those jobs down - no bueno, can't stand the environment.
It really was a case of "beggars can't be choosers"...but for the first time I wasn't a beggar.
So did it have anything to do with my situation? It's hard to say. I'm a damned good tech, so I can't say it's *all* luck...but I was a good tech before I was happy too.
My Atheist-ness tells me not to read too much into it I've found that oftentimes things are exactly as simple and "random" as they appear to be
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Writing doesn't have to be extensive, and I've seen you ramble a bit on some of your own pet topics like everything else, it's habit and practice...but also like I said, if it were important to you you'd probably already be doing it
No, I think the ultimate trick is to be "satisfied". I mean, if you look - historically - at the human race, we are alive during a time where our existence truly is amazing. Hell, we've got a friggen spacecraft that is leaving our Galaxy...and a hundred years ago we didn't even know what a Galaxy was.
So if the times are so great...well...why in the fuck are we so miserable? Why is it that the leading killer in our country is stress? (not to mention all of the other illnesses that are made worse (or more likely) by stress). And the reason is that too many people are dissatisfied...they aren't ready to say "good enough". While that's admirable for the thinkers, the movers, and the shakers...for the rest of us it's just exhausting and we don't get much of a payoff at all. Sure, we have our toys - but as I said in the beginning, if you don't have the time to play with them what good are they?
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No sweat - I don't anticipate being gone for more than a few days at a time, and I'll be trying to keep tabs here because like I said - I enjoy talking about myself
Chain - you know me, you always seem to ask just the right questions
Originally posted by Shahaku
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Honestly I'm not sure what prompted it, but I'm inclined toward "dumb luck".
See, all of my jobs prior to moving to Portland were just that - miserable shitholes paying me just enough to not quit. When I moved to Portland I took a new tack with the job: I'm not taking on extra shit, and I'm not going to worry too much about other people's problems.
Of course, I failed - working Helpdesk is nearly impossible to do the job well and not be invested in other people's drama, but it was a start.
As far as finding the job that I have now? Well...this was the first time I actively looked for a job while I was already gainfully employed, so that may have played into it - I could afford to be a little more reckless when I was talking to recruiters (the ones that annoy me? They can just screw off - and I tell them). I turned down other jobs too - ones that probably would have paid more and kept me closer to home...but the stress of inner-office politics was really enough for me to turn them down. Many of these places will hire, say, 50 temporary employees. From day one, those temporary employees are competing with each other and full time employees. At the end of 3 months? (or 6, or 9, or whenever they feel like it) they'll take five names out of a hat - whoever has "impressed" the most, or whoever is more visible, or whoever is blowing the boss - whatever. So I turned those jobs down - no bueno, can't stand the environment.
It really was a case of "beggars can't be choosers"...but for the first time I wasn't a beggar.
So did it have anything to do with my situation? It's hard to say. I'm a damned good tech, so I can't say it's *all* luck...but I was a good tech before I was happy too.
My Atheist-ness tells me not to read too much into it I've found that oftentimes things are exactly as simple and "random" as they appear to be
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Originally posted by ChainLightning
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No, I think the ultimate trick is to be "satisfied". I mean, if you look - historically - at the human race, we are alive during a time where our existence truly is amazing. Hell, we've got a friggen spacecraft that is leaving our Galaxy...and a hundred years ago we didn't even know what a Galaxy was.
So if the times are so great...well...why in the fuck are we so miserable? Why is it that the leading killer in our country is stress? (not to mention all of the other illnesses that are made worse (or more likely) by stress). And the reason is that too many people are dissatisfied...they aren't ready to say "good enough". While that's admirable for the thinkers, the movers, and the shakers...for the rest of us it's just exhausting and we don't get much of a payoff at all. Sure, we have our toys - but as I said in the beginning, if you don't have the time to play with them what good are they?
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Originally posted by Ljubezen
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