Re: A typical bully story? *let's look deeper*
Nothing. Avoiding yor bully, standing up to your bully...there aren't really many other options. As Chain mentioned above (and as I said in my own statement), being seen as "insane" or whatever can certainly help, but I equate that with "standing up to your bully", simply because it's basically doing the same thing back to them: Instilling fear through behavior. Act insane or fight back....or be absent. I haven't seen another option crop up.
Yes, this is how it's "solved". Deal with it. One way or another, deal with it. If you survive, maybe you'll be a better person. Or maybe you'll find out that you're pretty good at the bully thing yourself and become a bully. But "dealing with it" is really the only "solution". It's not much of one, but tried and true.
Nothing.
This is the thing: If you tell someone that can/will protect you (whether it's a friend, a sibling, your parents, your teachers, or the cops) you are automatically singled out as a particluar type of person. Unfortunately, that "type" of person is someone who is "just asking to be bullied" by being a snitch or whatever. Remember: snitches get stitches.
On top of that, if that person is able to protect you for a given event...what happens next time? What happens when the bullies inevitably get you away from your protection? When you head to the bathroom during class and they're waiting in the hall? The answer is this: You get your ass kicked. And if you know what's good for you you 'fell down the stairs'.
The only solution that I've been able to come up with is to teach our kids to be more, not less, ruthless. When a bully has to contend with someone that sees it as a life or death battle, I suspect the bullying will stop. But I also suspect that will turn our kids into something else entirely, so not exactly a good trade-off.
What about this question: What happens to our society when we have beaten or bred the violence out, and we have a need for it? I mean, we can see today the differences between what todays youth had to suffer through and what our grandparents (or great grandparents) had to deal with as far as violence and survival. Hell, that helped get them through the Great Depression, after all...but what happens in 20 years when aliens invade (or China invades) and nobody really grasps that "fighting fair" is not only a very human idea, but it's one that isn't echoed anywhere in nature. When we're all nice and we want to fight fair, the other guy is perfectly willing to fight dirty and to win by whatever means necessary. Survival is not an ethical dilemma.
Originally posted by Medusa
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Originally posted by Medusa
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Originally posted by Medusa
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This is the thing: If you tell someone that can/will protect you (whether it's a friend, a sibling, your parents, your teachers, or the cops) you are automatically singled out as a particluar type of person. Unfortunately, that "type" of person is someone who is "just asking to be bullied" by being a snitch or whatever. Remember: snitches get stitches.
On top of that, if that person is able to protect you for a given event...what happens next time? What happens when the bullies inevitably get you away from your protection? When you head to the bathroom during class and they're waiting in the hall? The answer is this: You get your ass kicked. And if you know what's good for you you 'fell down the stairs'.
The only solution that I've been able to come up with is to teach our kids to be more, not less, ruthless. When a bully has to contend with someone that sees it as a life or death battle, I suspect the bullying will stop. But I also suspect that will turn our kids into something else entirely, so not exactly a good trade-off.
What about this question: What happens to our society when we have beaten or bred the violence out, and we have a need for it? I mean, we can see today the differences between what todays youth had to suffer through and what our grandparents (or great grandparents) had to deal with as far as violence and survival. Hell, that helped get them through the Great Depression, after all...but what happens in 20 years when aliens invade (or China invades) and nobody really grasps that "fighting fair" is not only a very human idea, but it's one that isn't echoed anywhere in nature. When we're all nice and we want to fight fair, the other guy is perfectly willing to fight dirty and to win by whatever means necessary. Survival is not an ethical dilemma.
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