The Rant Thread (v 1.2)

[iris]

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Thank you Anu... yea, she's a special sot of nasty...and she does have control issues. She gets jealous of the people who help me. She gets jealous of me if she thinks I'm talking to my dad without her knowing... Which I do of course, he's my dad. She constantly tries to break me down. Last night her main event was 'I can't believe Torben hasn't left you yet' another favourite is 'there must be something wrong with him if he likes you'. I know very well she's terrified of losning control over me. But it still hurts.

I'm trying, but she usually comes uo with some stunt when I do. Like forbidding me from seing my dad, or threatening to kill herself because I hate her, or just tell her side of the family how terrible I am.

[magusphredde]

Re: Stop Saying That Michael Jackson Is A Pedophile

Michael Jackson WAS a pedophile ... With a funny looking Miss Piggy nose ... Now he is oxygen bleached worm food ...

[Gleb]

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Sometimes we have to get away from toxic people. I myself am going to get away from my parents as soon as possible... Heck, maybe even my whole family if I can. I'm sorry you have to go through all this.

[iris]

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Sometimes we have to get away from toxic people. I myself am going to get away from my parents as soon as possible... Heck, maybe even my whole family if I can. I'm sorry you have to go through all this.

I wish I could just do that. I've considdered it. But I like a lot of my family. And she's still my mom.

[anunitu]

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I really do not understand people at times..like your Mother doing these things to you. My EX's sister has a daughter who is gay,and when the sister got Cancer(she was about 75) she told her Gay daughter that she got cancer because god was angry about her daughter being gay. True story,and my Ex's sister died from the cancer but her daughter had to live with that statement her Mother made before she died.

[iris]

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People are lovely. I don't understand either. I really don't... my grandmother had cancer too, she spent 10 years going 'if I die tomorrow it will be your fault if you didn't say goodbye' every time someone got mad at her. She was much like my mother. I pray it's not the genes. But when she actually did die, I hadn't talked to her for over a year.

[Shahaku]

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Iris, I'm going to suggest a book. It's called Mothers who Can't Love. The author is Susan Forward. It's a great self help type book for situations like yours. Its really helped me with my mom. A couple themes, set firm boundaries and stick to them. It can be as simple as, "mom, if you continue talking to me this way, I'm ending the conversation." And learn non defensive language. Saying "I'm sorry you feel that way" instead of trying to defend your position. These are long term though, they take awhile to work. For you're wedding, think about a "bodyguard". Find a friend who is willing and capable and ask them to escort her out if you give a signal.

[callmeclemens]

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It's cold here today 50 degrees, and that's exciting

[iris]

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Iris, I'm going to suggest a book. It's called Mothers who Can't Love. The author is Susan Forward. It's a great self help type book for situations like yours. Its really helped me with my mom. A couple themes, set firm boundaries and stick to them. It can be as simple as, "mom, if you continue talking to me this way, I'm ending the conversation." And learn non defensive language. Saying "I'm sorry you feel that way" instead of trying to defend your position. These are long term though, they take awhile to work. For you're wedding, think about a "bodyguard". Find a friend who is willing and capable and ask them to escort her out if you give a signal.

Thank you. I just ordered it, should have it sometime next week.
I have. I told one friend, who called another. Now I have a whole army of friends all intent on making my day great, and ready to step in. One is ready to come yell 'surprise' saturday morning if I need someone (my mom can't get mad at me for bringing in someone if she thinks it's not my idea). I don't have a ton of friends. But they are great friends.

[anunitu]

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The temps here are down as well,and it feels like fall at last..

[Prickly Pear]

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Iris,you deserve a wonderful wedding. I'm glad you have your troops in place. I'm sorry about your mother. I hope that you know that it is not your fault, and you do not deserve to be treated that way.

And my rant is my teenager making poor choices. I understand, but am afraid she won't be able to ever recover from the consequences. Just feeling particularly frustrated tonight. Just yuck.

[Medusa]

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The three days of overtime is killing me. I mean I'm trying. I really am. But there is a reason I don't push myself anymore (old heart attack put the hell no to that). At work I was so stressed, I convinced myself I was having a heart attack. My blood pressure is very high right now. I tested it at work. I could feel the tense in my jaw and shoulders. And I just kept being out of breath.

Well I rode my bike home and I'm not dead or out of breath (any more than usual when biking home). So It's def work driving me to feel like this. And guess what else?

I was supposed to go 11-7 so I thought I would go to bed later since I could sleep in. Five hours later I get a call. I have to work 9-6. Another OT shift. And now I have 3 hours and then I have to go to bed if I want real sleep. I have to do 6am to 2:30pm.

I'm very disgruntled. And I don't care who knows it.

[anunitu]

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Here is a thing Duce,they can offer OT,but you are not obliged to accept it. I know because I worked in California and know the labor code. If they were to try and say it is mandatory,it is a violation of the labor code. The California labor code is one of the strictest protections in the whole US.

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Just checked and they can require overtime,I think this must have changed after I was in California. You having a medical condition that would be aggravated by work stress should be allowed to forgo overtime if it would hurt you,and your employer should be libel if you suffer hurt.

[DragonsFriend]

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All you need is a note from your doctor saying that the OT is affecting your physical condition and you can no longer work more than - - - hours a week.
I know, I did it.

[Medusa]

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this lying pendeja