To sum it up quickly, my mIL was in town last weekend from Wisconsin, and made mention of us moving up there to live with them. His parents moved from Texas to Wisconsin 5 years ago and he has been bummed ever since to be away from them. So I joked back we'd be there next spring. We'll it has turned into a very serious conversation and apparently if we did go it would be in December. I am not against going and I'm not against staying. In fact the pros of staying in Texas are way smaller then going. But KP is having a very very hard time with it. He beats himself up on a daily basis for moving back to Texas and he doesn't want this to be a mistake.
Pros of staying in Texas: I wouldn't hurt my family's feeling by leaving, even if I don't see them now.
KP could start school in spring
We would have our own place, but we wouldn't cause we have roommates
I just got a promotion
Cons: we aren't paying off the debt we aquired to move to Texas in fact it's building
KP hates his job with a passion
In all honesty we have no one but each other that we share comm on hobbies and interests. We're nerds and like to do nerds things and go places, kps bf here is an alcoholic that likes to play video games and sports (KP hates sports)
Pros of going to WI: it's new, and I love new places
We could pay off our debt
I could look for a job out of a kitchen (it's hard to have kids and work in a kitchen)
KP can go back to school and we could afford to pay for portions of it
We would see his parents, everyday
KP can find a job he likes
There are tons of things to do in the nice months of the year and we'd have people to do them with
We would have family close by when we have kids, and his parents could actually see their grandkids
Cons: Kps biggest one, it's cold
What if we hate it
Wed be loosing our space (except they have offered the basement to become our living room)
What if it's a mistake, kps words
What if he goes back to school we get more debt and he hates his job, then he's a quitter... again his words.
Are we going to be able to find jobs
I know that its a lot to take in but I thought putting it all out there might help me sort through it. I'd love your opinions and I think my honest worry is telling my family I'm leaving again, and a bit of guilt that I just got a cook 1 spot only to tell them bye. I'm not worried about a job I can find one, I have a knack for it. But he's making himself sick over this and it all started out as a joke, and I don't want this to be hard for him. I woke up this morning with the intent of telling him were staying here but I really don't know if that's the right decision.
Pros of staying in Texas: I wouldn't hurt my family's feeling by leaving, even if I don't see them now.
KP could start school in spring
We would have our own place, but we wouldn't cause we have roommates
I just got a promotion
Cons: we aren't paying off the debt we aquired to move to Texas in fact it's building
KP hates his job with a passion
In all honesty we have no one but each other that we share comm on hobbies and interests. We're nerds and like to do nerds things and go places, kps bf here is an alcoholic that likes to play video games and sports (KP hates sports)
Pros of going to WI: it's new, and I love new places
We could pay off our debt
I could look for a job out of a kitchen (it's hard to have kids and work in a kitchen)
KP can go back to school and we could afford to pay for portions of it
We would see his parents, everyday
KP can find a job he likes
There are tons of things to do in the nice months of the year and we'd have people to do them with
We would have family close by when we have kids, and his parents could actually see their grandkids
Cons: Kps biggest one, it's cold
What if we hate it
Wed be loosing our space (except they have offered the basement to become our living room)
What if it's a mistake, kps words
What if he goes back to school we get more debt and he hates his job, then he's a quitter... again his words.
Are we going to be able to find jobs
I know that its a lot to take in but I thought putting it all out there might help me sort through it. I'd love your opinions and I think my honest worry is telling my family I'm leaving again, and a bit of guilt that I just got a cook 1 spot only to tell them bye. I'm not worried about a job I can find one, I have a knack for it. But he's making himself sick over this and it all started out as a joke, and I don't want this to be hard for him. I woke up this morning with the intent of telling him were staying here but I really don't know if that's the right decision.
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