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Re: Reason you Might want to rethink online dating
You know, I don't think creepers are limited to online dating or personals ads. Plenty of women (and men!) have been hurt or killed by people they picked up in bars or met casually somewhere. No matter where you meet someone, it's important to remember that that person is still a stranger, and you don't really know what they're like. Use common sense and meet in public until you know them better, and always trust your gut.
I met my boyfriend on OK Cupid. We've been together for 3 1/2 years.
You know, I don't think creepers are limited to online dating or personals ads. Plenty of women (and men!) have been hurt or killed by people they picked up in bars or met casually somewhere. No matter where you meet someone, it's important to remember that that person is still a stranger, and you don't really know what they're like. Use common sense and meet in public until you know them better, and always trust your gut.
I met my boyfriend on OK Cupid. We've been together for 3 1/2 years.
Absolutely. I met my ex-husband in high school. I knew his entire family for 8 years before we got married. That didn't stop anything from going horribly wrong - all it meant was he was an exceptional con artist at an unusually young age. To this day, I think he was better at it as a teen than any other person of any age, anywhere.
There were 1 or 2 guys I met online or through personals before the 'net who were really decent people. But some were true weirdos, in all differing ways. My favorite was the one, in his late 40's, who seemed really nice. I asked him why he'd never been married and he said "I never thought about it too much but now it's time I look for a girlfriend, because MY MOM ISN'T GONNA LIVE FOREVER."
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Re: Reason you Might want to rethink online dating
I think online dating is too good to be true. First you chat with an attractive woman or man then the next thing you know the attractive woman or man you'll be meeting turns out to be a teenager girl or boy because she or he lied about her or his age. It happen before on Crime Watch Daily. This is why I stay away from online dating.
I think online dating is too good to be true. First you chat with an attractive woman or man then the next thing you know the attractive woman or man you'll be meeting turns out to be a teenager girl or boy because she or he lied about her or his age. It happen before on Crime Watch Daily. This is why I stay away from online dating.
Man, you must be doing something very wrong with your online dating.
I think online dating is too good to be true. First you chat with an attractive woman or man then the next thing you know the attractive woman or man you'll be meeting turns out to be a teenager girl or boy because she or he lied about her or his age. It happen before on Crime Watch Daily. This is why I stay away from online dating.
If this happens often enough to be an issue then video chat is harder to fake than tossing up a photo and since laptops these days tend to come with integrated webcams, arranging vid chat isn't terribly difficult. You're gonna get stuck guessing the age off interaction but you'll be slightly more assured that you aren't being completely suckered.
life itself was a lightsaber in his hands; even in the face of treachery and death and hopes gone cold, he burned like a candle in the darkness. Like a star shining in the black eternity of space.
Yoda: Dark Rendezvous
"But those men who know anything at all about the Light also know that there is a fierceness to its power, like the bare sword of the law, or the white burning of the sun." Suddenly his voice sounded to Will very strong, and very Welsh. "At the very heart, that is. Other things, like humanity, and mercy, and charity, that most good men hold more precious than all else, they do not come first for the Light. Oh, sometimes they are there; often, indeed. But in the very long run the concern of you people is with the absolute good, ahead of all else..."
John Rowlands, The Grey King by Susan Cooper
"You come from the Lord Adam and the Lady Eve", said Aslan. "And that is both honour enough to erect the head of the poorest beggar, and shame enough to bow the shoulders of the greatest emperor on earth; be content."
Re: Reason you Might want to rethink online dating
Ok here what happen on Crime Watch Daily: An older man who's in his early 20s try online dating and he was chatting with an older woman. What he didn't know that the older woman turn out to be a 13 year old girl who lied about her real age. The older man got arrested and registered as a sex offender. Moral of the story: Don't try online dating, it could ruin your life.
Re: Reason you Might want to rethink online dating
I agree that online dating makes deception easier. However, I'm not sure that the rate of rape and murder is any higher. I wonder how much of our fear of online dating gone wrong is related to the idea that most rapes and murders are committed by strangers. In fact, people we know may be equally or more dangerous, but it is too scary to contemplate. We like to focus on a guy who jumps out of the bushes. Then we believe that we are safe if we just stay away from bushes.
That said, I would certainly advocate caution when meeting a stranger from a dating site or other online source.
I have seen these dates work out well often enough that I wouldn't try to discourage someone from using these sites.
If this happens often enough to be an issue then video chat is harder to fake than tossing up a photo and since laptops these days tend to come with integrated webcams, arranging vid chat isn't terribly difficult. You're gonna get stuck guessing the age off interaction but you'll be slightly more assured that you aren't being completely suckered.
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