QDJ (The year of the chicken butt!)

[Jembru]

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What do you wish you had done differently?

When I dumped my ex while in Japan, I should never have taken him back. He gave up his flat and flew out to be with me. I took it as a beautiful romantic gesture and took him back. I know now that it was just a psychotic episode. I should have told him he's welcome to stay (he'd paid for the flight so what else could I have done?) but as a friend. Then he couldn't have hurt me and I wouldn't have left Japan. I wouldn't have rejected everything that made me 'me' because he had rejected me. I would have reached my goal of being fluent in Japanese years ago, instead of rejecting Japanese for 4 years and not taking my studies seriously again until meeting JP 6 years ago.

I hate that I'll never get to tell that guy how much he damaged me. The only good thing to come of all of this was meeting JP. He has made it so much easier to be content with the life I've been given.

[Hawkfeathers]

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What do you wish you had done differently?

Walked away from certain situations instead of trying to fix them.

[iris]

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What do you wish you had done differently?

Given up on my mother much sooner.

[B. de Corbin]

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What do you wish you had done differently?

Made choices based on money rather than ethics.

[volcaniclastic]

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What life lesson did you learn the hard way?

All of them. Nothing has come easy.

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What do you wish you had done differently?

I wish I could rewrite my entire twenties. I wish that instead of trying to work full-time and go to school full-time, I would have just picked my studies and lived more cheaply.

I wish I had never dated the first person I moved in with, because my depression after that breakup was the last straw on the camel's back, so to speak. I was kicked out of school 6 months later for continued poor academic standing.

I wish I hadn't spent the last seven years angry at myself for being a failure (I'm still angry).

I wish I got my degree when I was 21 like was the plan, and that I was working in my field, and that now, at 30, I wasn't making just above minimum wage and contemplating going back to school, after having been in school for six years of my life already.

I wish instead of moving to Yellowknife to be with Tim, I had stayed in Smithers and saved myself the last year and a half of heartbreak.

I wish I never went bankrupt. I wish I never knew starvation.

...but such is life.

[DanieMarie]

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What do you wish you had done differently?

I wish I concentrated less on finding a guy in my 20s and more on friends, hobbies, and all the other great things that life has to offer. I spent so much energy worrying that I'd never find love that it sucked up a lot of my focus, even when I wasn't dating anyone. When I was seeing someone, I let myself get sucked into the rollercoaster of terrible short-term relationships and it left me with little else to offer. Now that I'm older and in a great, stable relationship, I see that it was all a huge waste of time and energy and I wish I'd given more of that focus to other things.

Then again, maybe I wouldn't be who I am now if I'd done things differently. Maybe I had to make those mistakes. I don't really know. I guess on the positive side, I'm getting married with the feeling that I'm missing absolutely nothing from my single life.

[Heka]

What do you wish you had done differently?

Nothing jumps out. I wish I had quit my old job sooner I guess. Lots of regrets no doubt but I choose to move on rather than dwell.on them. Such is life.

[Medusa]

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What do you wish you had done differently?

It's the only thing I regret because everything else...well everyone is still alive. I still have time to make amends..oh who am I fooling? I don't care.

I wish I had found a way to keep my mother with me longer. I wish I had handled her mental illness differently. I will take that regret of not being a good enough daughter to my grave.

[Stardust]

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What do you wish you had done differently?

I wish I would have focused more on myself instead of trying to fit in back when I was in high school. Sometimes I wonder how my life would have turned out if I had applied myself instead of worrying about everyone else

[Medusa]

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What’s the biggest lie you once believed was true?

[Jembru]

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If you go to university and do a degree in a pointless science like Zoology, there are definitely plenty of jobs for you that don't require self-funding or doing it on a voluntary basis with just a living allowance paid to you. Yup, if you're from a disadvantaged background, don't worry yourself about picking a degree that has an actual occupation at the end of it. No no.. you just follow your passion and study those lovely fluffy animals for 3 sodding years... your one and only student loan entitlement won't go to waste.

[Rick]

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What’s the biggest lie you once believed was true?

That true love exists.

[Medusa]

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What’s the biggest lie you once believed was true?

I thought George Michael was straight when I was a teen.

[anunitu]

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What’s the biggest lie you once believed was true?

That humans were mostly sane and that the bad side was mainly an anomaly,But I now believe that the GOOD side is the anomaly.

[anubisa]

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What’s the biggest lie you once believed was true?

I agree with Jembru here. I think the biggest lie I thought was true was that once I got a degree I would immediately get a job. Heck no! I have a B.A. in Business Administration and once I got out in 2007 I had such a damn hard time finding a job. I eventually had to take temp jobs and get help from the SC employment bureau. Definitely don't believe that.