OK the deal is, he's very intelligent, I believe he's got decent money, he likes a lot of the same things I do, he's attentive, etc. But I'm just not feeling good about him. We've gone out twice and spent a lot of time on the phone. He's coming over tomorrow for dinner. It will be his first time visiting my home. If this goes well I am going to introduce him to some friends and see what they think. He's cool with my spirituality and we are both Italian (hard to find in these parts!)
The red flag I'm seeing is, he says he likes strong, independent women (me) but then he wants to take over, in a way. It's hard to explain but I feel like this is the type who will chip away at my joyfulness and rationalize his actions by saying he was trying to do something nice for me (like how he insisted on paying the check the second time we ate at a restaurnat. I felt I should have paid, since he paid the first time.) He's a little show-offy about his knowledge of facts, anything I talk about, he knows all about it.
*sigh* We'll see how tomorrow goes, I guess, and take it from there. I've already told him I am not a butterfly he can catch in order to pull its wings off. I don't want to walk away too quickly, but I feel that I should be all excited about seeing him again, and I'm just not. That in itself makes me sad.
The red flag I'm seeing is, he says he likes strong, independent women (me) but then he wants to take over, in a way. It's hard to explain but I feel like this is the type who will chip away at my joyfulness and rationalize his actions by saying he was trying to do something nice for me (like how he insisted on paying the check the second time we ate at a restaurnat. I felt I should have paid, since he paid the first time.) He's a little show-offy about his knowledge of facts, anything I talk about, he knows all about it.
*sigh* We'll see how tomorrow goes, I guess, and take it from there. I've already told him I am not a butterfly he can catch in order to pull its wings off. I don't want to walk away too quickly, but I feel that I should be all excited about seeing him again, and I'm just not. That in itself makes me sad.
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