Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

[Medusa]

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What was a moment you decided you needed to change something in your life?

Mine isn't as hard core as Bjorn's. After I had my heart attack I thought maybe I should start thinking about trying not to die so early. Which is ironic considering I was trying to off myself before 20. And by 30 I spent an entire week in Vegas for my birthday week. I figured I made it to 30, Let's effing celebrate that right there!

[Noir]

Re: Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

What was a moment you decided you needed to change something in your life?

When my uncle passed away in 2008. It was only after he was gone and I felt how empty a part of my life was without without him, that I realized I needed to spend as much time as possible with my loved ones, no matter what.

[kalynraye]

Re: Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

What was a moment you decided you needed to change something in your life?

I watched my parents especially my mother go through really hard times. I can remember her coming and getting my brother and I for the weekend and paying for gas in quarters and nickles to get us to her house and back. I never wanted to be in that position.

At 24 I moved my ex-husband(we had been together for 7 years) and myself to dallas to be closer to work, after I paid rent and moving costs I had $10 to my name for the next two weeks. I sat on the bed and bawled for two hours because I didn't know what I was going to do to get us through. We had no groceries, my gas tank was almost empty, and he "needed" to be able to get to his job that he worked 2 days a week if I was lucky. He told me to call my younger brother who was expecting a baby in 5 months and get money from him. I have hated myself ever since for that phone call but my brother loves me and helped me out.

Short story that was the last straw. One month later I paid my brother back and he moved out. Every now and then I might have to live on a tight budget but never again will I be that low!

[nbdy]

Re: Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

What was a moment you decided you needed to change something in your life?

There are a lot of those moments. What they all seem to have in common is a feeling of being trapped and powerless, which brings the realization that there is always a choice. The last big change was when I left the work world to be a full time mom. My 2-year-old, the youngest of three kids, had a fever and I called in to the office. I was told that my presence at that morning's meeting was vital and I needed to arrange care for the baby or I could kiss my career goodbye. We had no family in the area and had not lived there long enough to make the type of friends you leave your 2-year-old with, so I pumped that baby full of fever reducers and took her to day care, strategizingg that by the time her fever went back up the meeting would be over. During that half-hour drive from the day care to the office I rolled what I was doing over and over in my head. When I got there, I went to my boss' office, quit my job, and went back to get my child and take care of her properly.

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What word or phrase do you say most often?

"Actually..." "Nothing but a thing." "mm-hmm."

[habbalah]

Re: Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

What was a moment you decided you needed to change something in your life?

I've had a couple of those moments, and most of them really came from anything earthshaking. The biggest one was probably after my fiance broke up with me for the third time, to leave me for the woman that caused us to break up the first time. He was emotionally abusive and made me believe that no one would ever want me but him. I was shattered for a while, but after that, while I healed, I decided that I'd never let anyone walk all over me again, or manipulate me. It's made me a much stronger person in the long run.

[iris]

Re: Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

What was a moment you decided you needed to change something in your life?

I have those quite often. The first time it really struck me, I was in the hospital being observed for heart failure. They found nothing of course, that was when I realised how stressed I had been for ages. So I started working on changing pretty much everything. Once in a while I realise something is off... last time was yesterday; nothing is so important that I have to sacrifice happiness for it. Not even good ggrades ^^

[anunitu]

Re: Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

"What was a moment you decided you needed to change something in your life?"

The day one to many friends were found OD'ed and gone..Rethought the whole issue of getting high..

[Medusa]

Re: Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

Did you ever once dislike someone you now consider a friend? What changed your impression of them?

[Hawkfeathers]

Re: Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

Did you ever once dislike someone you now consider a friend? What changed your impression of them?

I started a job in the spring of 2000. There was a woman there in the front office who I thought was shrill, judgemental, and a real know-it-all. What changed my initial impression was just working there for a while and understanding her sarcasm about some of the people (and having the same feelings myself.) Now she's one of the first people I see when I go to NJ! LOL

[Bjorn]

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Did you ever once dislike someone you now consider a friend? What changed your impression of them?

I can't think of any off the top of my head, but I know for sure I've been this person for a few people. I hear what changed was mostly, "we realized you weren't really mean, just snarky."

[habbalah]

Re: Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

Did you ever once dislike someone you now consider a friend? What changed your impression of them?

Not exactly dislike, but someone I thought was standoffish and full of herself. I actually found out that she's warm and funny, and she was a very close friend for a while. We're still friends, but not as close.

[MaskedOne]

Re: Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

Did you ever once dislike someone you now consider a friend? What changed your impression of them?

Yes

time, exposure, increased maturity (sometimes on their part, sometimes on mine and sometimes on both)

[iris]

Re: Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

Did you ever once dislike someone you now consider a friend? What changed your impression of them?

Yes. One of my boyfriend's childhood friends. He seemed to take an instant dislike to me when we met, and was a bit rude. Turns out he was just really sad 'cause he didn't have a girlfriend, he's a very good friend of mine now.

[nbdy]

Re: Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

Did you ever once dislike someone you now consider a friend? What changed your impression of them?

Can't think of anyone, but I am not prone to snap judgments about people. Even after I decide a person is not some one I want closely involved in my life it is not so much that I "dislike" them as can't see any benefit in spending time with them. Life is short, spend time on mutually beneficial relationships.

[Medusa]

Re: Medusa's Quesion du jour (the year of the horse edition!)

What is one idea, fact, or situation that is hard for you to accept?