The Sex Talk

[Raphaeline]

Re: The Sex Talk

[quote author=thalassa link=topic=686.msg10974#msg10974 date=1289252285]
EXACTLY!!

I sure never had that talk! What if 1.0 wants a vibrator at 13? WTF do I say to that ?

ZOMG...that is only 10 years away.
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I don't think I'd be okay with my thirteen year old wanting a vibrator. Manual stimulation is fine - go to town, I say - but I think electronic devices might be going a little over my line until they're upwards of at least 16. Then MAYBE.

[Medusa]

Re: The Sex Talk

[quote author=Raphaeline link=topic=686.msg11020#msg11020 date=1289257638]
I don't think I'd be okay with my thirteen year old wanting a vibrator. Manual stimulation is fine - go to town, I say - but I think electronic devices might be going a little over my line until they're upwards of at least 16. Then MAYBE.
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I would ride my huffy bike over rocky terrain when I was 10.
I would rub the door handles when I was about 8.
Anything with a battery will do. I'd watch for the vibrating cell phones.

Boys have it so much easier. Not fair!

[shadow1982]

Re: The Sex Talk

I think if you're old enough, and brave enough, to ask your mum for a vibrator you may just be old enough to have one.

[Raphaeline]

Re: The Sex Talk

[quote author=Medusa link=topic=686.msg11023#msg11023 date=1289257717]
I would ride my huffy bike over rocky terrain when I was 10.
I would rub the door handles when I was about 8.
Anything with a battery will do. I'd watch for the vibrating cell phones.

Boys have it so much easier. Not fair!
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Oh, there are plenty of random vibrating objects around that I wouldn't freak out if I found something mysteriously missing - and maybe it's just a knee-jerk reaction - but my gut says "nay" to buying, like, a vibrating phallus for a thirteen year old.

[Medusa]

Re: The Sex Talk

[quote author=Raphaeline link=topic=686.msg11027#msg11027 date=1289258124]
Oh, there are plenty of random vibrating objects around that I wouldn't freak out if I found something mysteriously missing - and maybe it's just a knee-jerk reaction - but my gut says "nay" to buying, like, a vibrating phallus for a thirteen year old.
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I agree. Just let her buy her vibrating toothbrush like the rest of us. :P

[volcaniclastic]

Re: The Sex Talk

[quote author=Medusa link=topic=686.msg11029#msg11029 date=1289258209]
I agree. Just let her buy her vibrating toothbrush like the rest of us. :P
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Toothbrushes are for teeth...

[Medusa]

Re: The Sex Talk

[quote author=volcaniclastic link=topic=686.msg11034#msg11034 date=1289258411]
Toothbrushes are for teeth...


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Not the fat vibrating end.

[Corvus]

Re: The Sex Talk

There is a website for guys....I'm serious and its not pornographic.

[magusphredde]

Re: The Sex Talk

[quote author=Medusa link=topic=686.msg11023#msg11023 date=1289257717]
I would ride my huffy bike over rocky terrain when I was 10.
I would rub the door handles when I was about 8.
Anything with a battery will do. I'd watch for the vibrating cell phones.

Boys have it so much easier. Not fair!
[/quote]Bull hockey ... RIding a bike gets uncomfortable ... Taking a sock to bed gives you a sorta rug burn ... Girls can walk around all day with a vibratator and noone would know except by the smile on their face ...

[Raphaeline]

Re: The Sex Talk

[quote author=Medusa link=topic=686.msg11037#msg11037 date=1289258845]
Not the fat vibrating end.
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BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH


+1

[Nyx]

Re: The Sex Talk

[quote author=Medusa link=topic=686.msg10970#msg10970 date=1289252132]
What about the talk about masturbation? I don't think any girls ever get that talk.
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A lot of people seem to forget to talk to girls about how to actually get sexual pleasure. I was never even told what the clit was, or that it even existed. I had to find out about that on my own. First time I heard it mentioned I was 11 and read something on a forum. At first I seriously thought "clit" was just another slang term for vagina until I looked it up.

I found out about sex from a friend casually mentioning something when I was 8 or 9. I simply thought "Oh, okay, that makes sense" and moved on with my day. Never mentioned that to my mother, though. When she finally tried to give me "the talk" I was 12 and all she said was: "Well, you know what boys have... and you know what girls have... so something has to go somewhere".

@#$%! And she was a nurse, too! But also very conservative, so I suppose that was part of it. She also thought that masturbation was dirty and something that shouldn't be done.

Elementary Sex education consisted of separating the class by gender into different rooms. Boys watch the "boy" video and girls watched the "girl" video. All that it covered was menstruation and breast development. That was it.

Middle school and High School sex ed consisted of an abstinence only program called Aim For Success. Showed photos of STDs and claimed that all STDs were incurable. Never discussed proper protection, just said it was ineffective. Also never discussed homosexual sex.

Big surprise. I live in Texas. :

Good thing I was a curious child with access to the internet. Porn and sex/health education sites such as scarleteen.com were my best friends.

[Raphaeline]

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Thank you for that resource! I've never heard of scarleteen before. +1

[Veronica]

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I got the info from my psycho grandmother at age 4. She took my cousin and me to the library, checked out a book, read it to us, and then let us look at the pictures. My other grandmother was mortified and pissed... I remember it well!

I think having that kind of knowledge really made me think about sex A LOT before I was ready to. So much so that by the time we were 12 my cousin and I were dreaming of things we would do if we could get a guy in bed! NOT COOL.

With my little one being so clingy, she follows me everywhere! I get no bathroom time, and no, my master bath has no lock... it's an old house : so I get a lot of questions about pretty personal things.

I've also had questions like "how does the baby get out of the mommy?" "how does the daddy help the mommy get the baby in her tummy?" "Can girls who marry girls still have babies?" that one leads to "Which one is the daddy?" OY VEY!

She's only 6 and I'm hoping there won't be a need for a "talk" as many questions as she asks. I just am sure to stress that our bodies are precious and we only let certain, very special people share!

But when she was younger and found her place "down there" I would just tell her she needed to take that to her bedroom. It makes others uncomfortable.

[thalassa]

Re: The Sex Talk

[quote author=Veronica link=topic=686.msg11681#msg11681 date=1289426317]
But when she was younger and found her place "down there" I would just tell her she needed to take that to her bedroom. It makes others uncomfortable.
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Lol...when I was in the Navy, I was a corpsman (a medic in non-sailor speak), and I had a friend working in pediatrics that used to comment about how mortified parents would be that their young kids did that--particularly when it was little girls...and they'd be afraid to ask the pediatrician if it meant the kid was being abused or not and all sorts of stuff.

Which I thought was pretty darn hilarious. I always put it like this... They start touching themselves in the womb, and the only reason they stop when they come out is because you strap a diaper to their butt, but as soon as they figure out how to get their hand down their pants or the diaper off their rear, they start doing it again. It feels good. Its not like its about sex, I mean...they don't even know what that is!

[Dez]

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Hah, Thal...that reminds me of my SIL. She called my in-laws, practically in tears, the first time one of her boys had an erection when she was changing his diaper. Not the people I'd go to for advice on that, myself, seeing how they raised Fiddly :