Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

[Larix]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

I disagree. Humans are fickle arseholes.

Aha .....

I see.

Btw: Are you human?

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Not to mention, but a person that has a problem with you pet has a problem with you. Pets are family. Boyfriends are just roommates with benefits.

When I said "partner", I meant PARTNER!

Not somebody you sleep with for a day or two.

Of course I do not know what you mean by partner here ....

[Gleb]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

I disagree. Humans are fickle arseholes. With animals you know where you stand.

And they don't argue.

Seconded....

[Larix]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

@ Gleb

Are you human?

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It seems quite dangerous here to contradict a majority .....


And again some people seem not to understand what I am really saying - or not wanting to understand

They seem to derive a lot of pleasure by ganging up against someone who dares to contradict a majority.

[Hawkfeathers]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

My parrot's been with me for almost 25 years. THAT is a partner LOL
I didn't date anyone who owned an incompatible pet, as I'm not interested in the type of person who would ditch a pet.

[Gleb]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

@ Gleb

Are you human?

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It seems quite dangerous here to contradict a majority .....


And again some people seem not to understand what I am really saying - or not wanting to understand

They seem to derive a lot of pleasure by ganging up against someone who dares to contradict a majority.

I am human. Otherwise I wouldn't be here. The reason I second Heka, is that different people prefer some things over other things. I prefer cats over some people, for example. Not all people are "angels", after all.

[Larix]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

I am not speaking of "some people"

I am speaking of a beloved partner for life.

Is it pagan to throw a beloved partner on the rubbish heap when he or she does not agree with a pet?


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I am now leaving this thread!

I am sick and tired of getting mobbed again for not ageeing with the majority.

[thalassa]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

My parrot's been with me for almost 25 years. THAT is a partner LOL
I didn't date anyone who owned an incompatible pet, as I'm not interested in the type of person who would ditch a pet.

And, in my book, a partner (that's worth anything) doesn't give an ultimatum over something like that---its like dating a single mom and saying "your kid or me".

[DanieMarie]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

I am not speaking of "some people"

I am speaking of a beloved partner for life.

Is it pagan to throw a beloved partner on the rubbish heap when he or she does not agree with a pet?


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I am now leaving this thread!

I am sick and tired of getting mobbed again for not ageeing with the majority.

But what kind of partnership is it if the other person can't accept the people and things you love? I'd -assume- that no one would ask someone to get rid of a pet they got together, so obviously the pet was there first. What kind of person dates someone long enough that they move in together, pretends to be ok with the pets, and then just magically expects their significant other to just get rid of her/his pets? That's not a partnership.

I could never get to that point with someone who wasn't willing to love my cat and I couldn't consider a man like that my partner.

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And, in my book, a partner (that's worth anything) doesn't give an ultimatum over something like that---its like dating a single mom and saying "your kid or me".

Exactly...it's super selfish to do something like that. To me, it doesn't scream "equal partner in this relationship."

[B. de Corbin]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

And, in my book, a partner (that's worth anything) doesn't give an ultimatum over something like that---its like dating a single mom and saying "your kid or me".

This, and Hawkfeather's version, are wisdom.

A person who holds love for ransom with the cost being another love is best avoided.

It's possible that the person just does not understand how much the pet means to the one who owns it, but - if he/she doesn't get that, it might be worth reflecting on what else that person doesn't get about the things one values.

[thalassa]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

A person who holds love for ransom with the cost being another love is best avoided.

It's possible that the person just does not understand how much the pet means to the one who owns it, but - if he/she doesn't get that, it might be worth reflecting on what else that person doesn't get about the things one values.

This...this is what I was thinking of when I (off the cuff) said that a boyfriend is just a roomie with benefits--the difference between a boyfriend (or girlfriend) and a (prospective) life-partner is that they value what you value because you value it, even if they don't personally value it.

My mother always wanted a piano as a girl. My grandparents were poor--not living in poverty poor, but no money for extras poor. It was her dream to play the piano...she ended up playing the flute instead (a neighbor had a daughter that quit lessons, and she gave it to my grandma, and another neighbor taught music lessons and traded that for my grandma's sewing skills). So, when she got her first job, she saved her extra money. It took her a couple years, but she bought herself a piano.

My step-dad recently told her he wanted her to get rid of it because it "takes up too much space and no one plays it"---they own a 4 bedroom home with a loft, a den, a rec room, and a 2 car garage. It only takes up too much space in his mind.

[anunitu]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

Nobody messes with my sock puppet.....My true friend and companion for these many years....(Can you tell when I mean business,and when I am just being funny?)

[Hawkfeathers]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

Nobody messes with my sock puppet.....My true friend and companion for these many years....(Can you tell when I mean business,and when I am just being funny?)

Is his name Wilson?

[anunitu]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

That is my Soccer ball....and he is a bit touchy around sharp objects...

[Hawkfeathers]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

That is my Soccer ball....and he is a bit touchy around sharp objects...

So if the two had an offspring, it'd be a Socker ball puppet?

Yeah I know. Keep my day job. ***sigh*** LOL

[anunitu]

Re: Boyfriend constantly fighting with me about cats

Badda bing,badda boom....(rim shot)(that was funny kiddo)